People with 4 children- how did it compare to 3??

[ajarintennessee]

I’d really really like 4. But it will be so hard… I don’t want to talk dh into it if it will be years of slogging along just trying to survive the week. We both work full time and that would be unlikely to change, in case that’s relevant. I’m on maternity leave with our 3rd, it’s hard going but she is so beautiful. Tell me how the move from 3 to 4 was for you please, the good and the bad??

I know! we are secretly hoping they don't all go to uni. I am always loudly pointing out that our mates who are builders/plumbers/sparks etc are doing very well for themselves.

I skipped 3 and went straight to 4. Youngest pair are seven it is all very expensive shoe/ activity wise to say nothing of petrol. Teen years are expensive and uni costs. Due to the spread I’ll have 3 in uni at the same time.

“I don’t want to talk dh into it if it will be years of slogging along just trying to survive the week”

It will be.

HTH

It can be hard at times. Going from three to four felt like the most significant change than one to two or two to three. I feel sometimes I'm spread too thinly, everything is expensive and there's always an appointment for one of them I need to be at. Thing run more smoothly for me being a stay at home mum.

We were in your position about 10 years ago. We considered a fourth and decided to stick with 3. We haven’t regretted the decision. Particularly, since we’ve got into the teenage years, we feel spread thin with parenting three of them. They need individual attention and need to chat about how they’re feeling. The school system puts teenagers under a lot of pressure.

We have 4 with an 8 year age gap between eldest and youngest. I agree with everyone else about the time that each child needs increases massively in the teenage years.

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