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‘Goodnight’ texts - I want to say how much I appreciate this?

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theresnotimeforus · 09/11/2022 23:51

A good friend has been texting me on and off during the week for the past few months, usually just chatting through how my days been bht she always ends by saying goodnight - normally says something like ‘night night, sleep well’ . I live alone, lost my mum not too long ago and previously would have always rang mum last thing to say goodnight.

I’m a fully grown adult but been utterly bereft with grief . Friend is the same age as my mum, and it just makes me feel a bit better knowing someone one cares and as silly as it sounds I sleep better and I feel less alone turning the light off at night .

Would you find it weird if you were friend and I said how much I appreciate it . I don’t want her to feel she has to do it every night at all or something, it’s usually 3-4 nights a week. but it’s just such a lovely thing to do occasionally . I don’t know if she says it intentionally to help or if she’s just being polite iyswim!

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Season0fTheWitch · 09/11/2022 23:53

Tell her, I'm sure she'd love to know what a comfort she is to you.

I'm very sorry for your loss x

VioletTopaz · 09/11/2022 23:57

I’m very sorry about your Mum op.
And no, I wouldn’t find it all weird if I were your friend and you told me that.
I’m sure your friend will be glad to know she is helping.

Starpop · 10/11/2022 00:07

I'm sorry for your loss, I lost my Mum 12 years ago and this still brought a tear to my eye. Your friend sounds lovely and so do you, tell her what you've told us I think she'll be touched, it's nice to be appreciated x

Iwritethissittinginthekitchensink · 10/11/2022 00:24

It’s lovely to share you feelings with friends. Why wouldn’t you?

Unicorn2022 · 10/11/2022 00:36

That's so nice but I wouldn't tell her if it was me. It would go from being something she enjoys doing and does unprompted, to her possibly feeling obligated to do it and guilty if she doesn't.

AliensAteMyHomework · 10/11/2022 01:38

That'sso lovely.

In very different circumstances, I have had friends who have absolutely saved me.

Tell her. Say thank you. She won't think you're weird, she'll be touched and be glad that her support has helped.

She sounds very kind. Friends like this are to be cherished.

Could you also get her a really personal and thoughtful gift as a thank you? That's always a good way to say thank you I think, when words to express how you really feel in detail are hard to find without it becoming embarrassing for you both.

BlackBarbie · 10/11/2022 01:56

that’s lovely. I wouldn’t tell her though. It’ll become a ‘thing’ where she feels she has to do it and you’ll then start wondering ‘did I just receive this good night text only because I told her I like them’. Just leave it as it is and enjoy them when they come

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