Name change as this is pretty outing.
In March, my daughters dad assaulted me in front of her. She was 6 weeks at the time. I ended up telling my HV to many peoples disappointment and of course, it ultimately had to end. This upset a lot of people.
I love my mum so much but sometimes I have this inner conflict. My mum still loves my daughters dad. She saves him food and wants to have him over still. She asks how he is and invites him to coffee with us. Offers her spare room etc. Now if I were her, I'd be so angry at him for hurting my daughter. However, instead I somehow almost got the blame. I've been faced with 'so you never hurt him?' and I'm sure they think I wound him up and I deserved it. They blame it on taking on too much (child, house etc) at once. My therapist says it's maybe because she's been through it and sees is different to me or that it's generational.
It just doesn't feel right to me and its got so bad I'm wondering if I am being dramatic. I've been told this my whole life. It makes me wonder if what happened was even that bad. I've been told it could've been so just h worse which it could've been, but it invalidates me.
What's normal here? It's confusing. When my mum gets annoyed it takes me back to the whole scenario and makes me emotional