Defeated 😢

[Brokenmummyy]

Don’t know the point of this. Just needed a safe place to share my feelings right now.

i feel absolutely broken, split with daughters dad 6 months ago, i ended it 7 years of physical and emotional abuse. He’s been in and out her life ever since blaming me for everything whilst I wipe away her tears because she’s missing daddy again. Wetting the bed, crying herself to sleep, it’s changed her and I found out Sunday he’s been raising another woman’s child instead. A lot more happened but that’s the gist.

new relationship. I think im sabotaging it. Constantly finding things to pick at and to be honest I don’t think im strong enough yet but im crazy about him right now he’s my happy place. Im sick of overthinking everything.

im struggling to cope with my DD she’s a very demanding 5 year old, of course she’s dealing with missing daddy. But im completely worn out with it all, if I hear “MOMMYYYYYY” one more time I might scream. She’s getting on every single last nerve because I don’t get a break from her I even have to take her to work with me. She’s over reacting to everything by screaming at the top of her lungs. I can’t cope

i am completely and totally worn out. Im sat on my bed in tears. My mind needs a break, I need a breather, life feels to much right now 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

No advice but

thank you 😢

I don’t think the new relationship is helping as you are not in a place where you have a clear head and can devote the time and energy to him.

If he is responsible when he has her then I think you should consider having minimal
contact with him and perhaps involving a trusted relative of either yours or his that the child can be dropped off and picked up without you and your ex having to meet.

You need to devote your time to your daughter who needs you to be well and see that you are happy and the rest of your time spent in building yourself back up so that you feel happy. Then you would be ready for a new relationship.

I agree with ending the new relationship. It’s too much too soon and your daughter is clearly distressed at the breakup and the inconsistent visits from her dad. You need to make sure your home is stable and consistent because a lot has changed for her in the last six months so no wonder she is unsettled.

You will be absolutely fine and things will improve. You just need to hang in there and fake it until you make it to some extent, at least for your DD’s sake. I do have sympathy though, it sounds tough.