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Have I done a stupid thing?

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SilverPen · 08/11/2022 18:41

I'm going out with a group on Friday. One man works near me but lives quite a step away. We're going out close to where I live.

He is going to come here after work rather than going home and we'll have something to eat (pizza or similar) then go and meet friends at the venue. I've said he can stay here afterwards.

I've know him quite a long time, definitely just friends, but I was married for quite a lot of that time and he's had various partners. Although my friend he was actually very good to both me and DH in DH's final illness.

Both of us have "casually" referenced sleeping arrangements making it clear the expectation is he'll be on the sofa, but we'll have been drinking etc etc.

I did originally expect that adult DS1 would be here, but now he won't.

Anyway, he's a perfectly nice man and attractive. I've never noticed that until recently, but even so, I'd hate to mess up the friendship group we're part of. In any case he's never given any indication he finds me attractive.

Hopefully intentions are clear, but I know I get all touchy feely when I've had a drink! And so does he TBH.

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ThunderMoo · 08/11/2022 18:43

Hopefully intentions are clear, but I know I get all touchy feely when I've had a drink! And so does he TBH. control yourself then.

SandysMam · 08/11/2022 18:46

Sorry for the loss of your DH. Would it be a problem if something romantic developed with your “friend”? He sounds nice, you sound nice, both single I take it? Not sure of your situation but I have a long term illness and would be pleased if DH found happiness after I’m gone.

Windtunnel · 08/11/2022 18:47

It will be fiiiiine. (or not)

SilverPen · 08/11/2022 18:49

SandysMam · 08/11/2022 18:46

Sorry for the loss of your DH. Would it be a problem if something romantic developed with your “friend”? He sounds nice, you sound nice, both single I take it? Not sure of your situation but I have a long term illness and would be pleased if DH found happiness after I’m gone.

I don't know TBH. There's been a decent interval, although there are times when I still struggle very much and this friendship group have been a tremendous support to me. I think that's my major concern - if "something" did happen between us, the effect it would have on the group and my place in it, especially if things don't work out.

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LunaAndHerMoonDragons · 08/11/2022 18:50

If you don't want anything to happen and you know theirs a risk it might after drinking then go easy on the drink.

ScrambledOrPoached · 08/11/2022 19:05

Don’t drink.

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