Looking for support (trigger warning assault )

[fatisnotafeeling]

My DD is 12 she went out with some friends on Sunday and disclosed yesterday that she ended up alone with a boy and he assaulted her.

We had the child protection police here last night and I'm expecting contact from social services today.

She is due to go for a video interview later this week.

I just don't know what to do, the same thing happened to me when I was younger and it's stayed with me for all my life. I didn't want that for my daughter.
I think maybe I'm in shock.

Looking for support.

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Have I perhaps put this in the wrong section, can anyone recommend where I can ask for it be moved to so I can get some support and perhaps some advice.

So sorry to hear this, OP. I don’t have any personal experience but I would give your daughter lots of reassurance that was happened was in no way her fault. I’d follow her lead in terms of how much she wants to talk to you about what actually happened but let her know that she can talk about it any time she wants and that you are always there for her.

I'm so sorry this happened to your daughter. Its good that she felt she could confide in you and open up about what happened. She knows it's wrong and together you are addressing it straight away so that the boy can be punished and she will get the love, support and counselling she needs to recover from this as best she can. I think most abuse problems come from different generations or girls who suffered in silence over the years and never actually dealt with what happened. That can manifest later in life. It's good that's she's getting help now. I hope she's OK OP.

She hadn't really spoken to me in detail about what happened, she confided in a counsellor in school and they called me to go in, they read me her statement as she couldn't bring herself to tell me what happened.

The child protection officer were amazing with her and did all the usual checks in the house, looking at her room and asking questions about our home life etc.

I have reassured her she it wasn't her fault but she did lie to us about who she was with so I'm trying to keep that separate from the assault but I had to address the lying to us .

I have all these thoughts going around my head and I've shocked myself by how victim blaming some of them are, I haven't said any of them to her of course and actually really beating myself up about them. Why am I thinking things like ' why was she alone with him' 'why did she lie to us'. Then I feel so sad because if I'm thinking these others will and probably voice them as well and they should never be said because it wasn't her fault, it was him and she did nothing wrong.

My thoughts are just completely all over the place so please bare with me if it doesn't make sense.

We have had a tiring day, it seems that some things have been put on social media (my DD isn't on social media ) but she confided in 2 friends and they have clearly told others.

I have informed the school and the police but I haven't seen what's been said ( some are calling her a liar) but she knows they have. She is being very brave and said they can believe what they like she knows what's true.