The four of us have been friends for 5 or 6 years and have done a lot together. This is the scenario currently, though:
Basically, one of them (Friend A) really upset Friend B. She didn't mean to, she was actually trying to help, but worded it badly. Friend B has never confronted her, just gone cold on her without saying why. This actually happened back in summer, and I've felt in an awkward position since. (I wasn't there, just heard about it 3rd hand. I'd have been upset too, but don't know exactly how it was said).
The other friend has completely sided with the one who's upset, and they now on our group WhatsApp, just 'like' her comments and give non-committal responses when she suggests us all meeting up. She's noticed, and asked outright in the group what's wrong. They just gloss over it though, and start posting cute photos of their pets etc, to distract her. 🤔 I have to sometimes see her 1-1, we work in the same building, but have been told by the other two not to say anything.
I realise group meet-ups are unlikely to happen now, but value the friendship with them all. 🙁 I suggested to the other 2, meeting up when I knew the other friend was on holiday (so I wouldn't feel I was actively 'leaving her out'). They agreed to an evening, then cancelled on me last minute with lame excuses, and never bothered to rearrange. 🙁
As I'm having no luck seeing the other two separately, I responded on the group to a suggestion by Friend A, asking if we're free on a certain date between Xmas & New Year, for a local event that's taking place. I said I was free then, and the other two immediately jumped on me (on the group) with OMG how can you think that far ahead? Can't we just play December by ear? (With laughing/eyeroll emojis). This upset me, I suppose I'm the quietest in the group and now being told I can't even speak on there. ☹ I've not said anything else, they obviously don't want to go, and are annoyed with me for responding to her. They'd left it for a week though, and given no answer at all!
They're not actually my friends at all, are they? It's hurt me a lot as I always felt closer to them than Friend A, but despite my efforts to reach out, they've obviously decided to treat me as if I'm nothing to them, despite them knowing I'm in a difficult position, and have done nothing wrong. ☹