Im 33 and currently living at my parents house with my 2 children.
When I was pregnant my ex husband walked out on me. He sees the children still but after he left he manipulated and abused me mentally and it's taken me along time to rebuild myself.
Anyway, im now a working single mum. Like most, finances are extremely tight right now and im finding it really hard to move on from My parents. After being on the social housing waiting list for a few years and ive finally been offered a place! I haven't looked round it yet so I have no idea how suitable it will be.... but still this is my first opportunity to start a new chapter!
Im ready to move on. Im eternally greatful for my parents but I so desperately want to run my own home.
The problem is that me and my mum have an extremely close relationship. She has adored us living with her and I know that when we go she will be absolutely heartbroken. Whenever I talk to her about the new place she tries to hide it but her eyes fill up. I just feel SO guilty.
I brought both my children home to their house and they were babies here. I feel guilty. But I've outgrown the space. I feel like I have no independence or life. I walk round a house and don't see myself anywhere. But I just feel so sad for my mum. For reference my mum and dad do live together and have been happily married for 40 years (😅) but this is just how close me and my mum have always been.
How do I deal with this guilt?
My mum obviously wants what's best for me but I know she will be so lost without us.