This on its own sounds stupid. And I'm likely to be judged for it sadly. But there has been alot going on with my son . This includes being aggressive towards me. Smashing the house up. And lots of other things . I basically. More recently he tried to end his life and professionals have at last taken it seriously and are starting to do assessments etc.
Although I have tried its next to impossible to talk to him about things he won't open up to me only shows me anger . I know tjat I'm not unapproachable as my other older/adult children have always felt thru can open up and talk to me.
So he won't take advice. Will ignore anything I say and do stuff I fell him not to . Hes close to his adult sister and will often take advice /guiding from her .
It's him and her I feel angry/frustrated with he was with her today and he's bought a tea light candle. I'm so worried he's going to set the house alight. He does not sleep normal hours so its not like I can keep an eye on it . He could fall sleep with it burning or anything. When I said this to my daughter she said tell him to make sure he don't fall asleep and them tea lights don't burn for long anyway. Its like she does not see the issue . She should have told him not to get them. Even after I explained to her it was still like she did not get it. She's great most of the time bit every now and then she just don't get it.
Any other parent could just go in and take the candles but he would kick off. The only thing I can think it to message the professional who calls him most days .
Sorry this is a long post over a candle I was trying to explain why it's not as simple as just taking it