Feeling gutted for DH- no promotion as promised

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I just want to write this down somewhere as obviously I am trying to stay positive and supportive for DH in real life. He has worked so hard this last year and is due a well deserved promotion. He was actually approached by another company and offered this level and declined as he much prefers his current company (they know he was offered this, not that he has declined and have strung him along for 3 months until his review promising a raise and promotion).

I just feel so sad for him- he is gutted. He works so hard, supports junior staff loads, more than fulfils what the promoted role is. They've said they will review in 6 months and 'seriously consider' promotion then instead of the usual 12 but why not now?! We could really use the extra money and DH is fed up of working at 120% for no reason. They've already said he meets all the requirements but needs more time to 'consolidate those skills'.

He loves his company and doesn't really want to go elsewhere but is so upset and annoyed. They didn't mention a payrise so he doesn't know what to ask for there either as he's in the same role but would usually have a yearly uplift.

Obviously FW problem, lucky to have jobs etc. I know companies are probably being careful as a recession is looming but I'm gutted for him.

That's awful and I know how it feels as the wife of a DH who's been in the same position. He doesn't take it and leaves. Generally this has been to his advantage - sometimes maybe not but he's now probably doing far better than if he's stayed when he's been "overlooked".

My DH was in a similar position last year. He stuck it out for a while but is leaving at the end of the year for a much better paid role elsewhere.

My DH has just gone through similar. Promised the earth by his current company. Then nothing has happened. Lots of talk, but no actual action. So he's handed in his notice, and they are apparently really surprised he is leaving. No guarantee with the new company, obviously, but I think once you start to feel unappreciated by a company, unless they are prepared to do something about it, there is no going back.

In my experience, this mainly happens when someone isn't quite performing as expected/hoped for the new role. i.e. More than their current role but not quite to the next level.

It's shit because that message should be delivered clearly with good examples and support to improve - but just left in the hope the person will magicallly improve so that it comes as a surprise when the promotion doesn't happen.

"Consolidate those skills" is not clear feedback. It's a massive cop out. He would be within rights to ask for an additional conversation with specifics on areas he is not yet performing to the level they require.

Time for him to leave. He owes the company nothing and in most industries it's an employees market. He needs to start talking to recruiters.

"but just left in the hope" should read "not just left in the hope"

If we are facing a recession then leaving now while the jobs are still out there could be key.

But also needs to be balanced with losing any length of service with his current employer.

He needs to leave

This won't improve

In other words, they want him to continue working at the higher level, but without the pay that should go with it. No wonder he's pissed off.

He leaves.... they are banking on the fact hes doing all the extra work...and is happy there......
He needs to remember that noone is irreplaceable ..
It may not be available in 6/12 months...

Thanks for the responses. Yes it’s crap as he’s also weighing up the risk of leaving as his line of work (construction) is obviously generally affected badly by recession so his commitment and loyalty to his current company might be useful. They are also generally supportive and good and he’s unsure whether this is a result of them acting cautiously with the current climate.

I have recently had this happen to me. Was actually doing the role for 2 months, and then they gave it to someone with a higher level than me but less experience. Keep supporting DH, I know they'll be truly deflated.

Can he ask the other company if hey would still consider him?