I need advice - noisy neighbours ruining our lives

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Just don’t know what do. They bought the house 6 months ago and actually warned us how noisy they’d be. We went to say hi and the woman said we’d hate them as neighbours because “we are so noisy, the kids and the dog and my husband loves loud music”.

Its the woman that makes the most noise. Constant screaming, whether at her kids or down the phone. She’s on the phone ALL day. She clean ALL day with what sounds like a mop, smashing the walls & skirting boards. The whole family get up at 5 am everyday, the 3 kids to chase the yapping dog round the house and her to start cleaning.

They slam doors all day so our house vibrates. They never leave the house. The kid leave it to go to school and that’s it. Even at weekends they sit in the house making noise. We never get a break from them.

Its making me and my DH ill, right now I’m trying to enjoy my day off and she’s smDhing the house up with her mop whilst simultaneously screaming down the phone.

We can’t afford to move. I was worried about reporting to council etc for when we can sell but now I don’t know if I care enough to worry about that as this family is relentless and I just want them to stop.

I spoke to her a few months ago and it did quieten down a bit but now it’s all back to normal. Living in a terrace is horrendous ☹️

It may not be the perfect solution but maybe some noise cancelling headphones you could wear when things are really bad might help.

Have you asked them very politely to please try to be a little more considerate?

I'd speak to her again and say it's bloody horrific. I'm afraid I did actually move, as did the people next door (we were in a downstairs flat with horrifically noisy upstairs neighbours, bloke regularly threw his girlfriend across the room, lots of calls to police/environmental health. I have ptsd from the year of hell, neighbours can frankly ruin your life.

Sometime people think - if I tell them we are bad at that, then its fine to continue to do so.

Could you write a letter explaining how its affecting your lives? State it was great for a while when we had a word with you but then you revert to your old ways and our lives suffer tremendously badly.

so continue in the letter

so we know that you can do it and be quite but your choice as we see it is to be loud and make us miserable - yet knowing that you can be quite and make our lives happy

Yes maybe a letter is a good idea. They all get up at 5 and even though DH and I don’t need to get up til later they ALWAYS wake us and our DS up so we feel constantly exhausted. When I spoke to her about this she asked us what time DS gets up and when I told her she said they would try & hold off the noise til then.

Weekends are the worst, we’ve all been at school/working but we never get to lie in. My work have noticed how tired & distracted I am so it’s affecting everything.

Buy her a steam mop?

She has a steam mop! We actually worked out from all the hissing and bubbling noises what it was. She uses it a lot.

I now realise how thin our walls. However I’m quite shocked at the amount of noise we now hear, before them there was a family of 5 with teenagers, never heard a thing and before them a couple with twins, also never heard a thing.

This lot ripped out all the carpet and curtains and laid laminate so I’m sure this is partly why we now hear everything.

You hear a steam mop hissing through the walls??

Yes I hear it, incredible I know. All I can think is that it is right up against the wall - it sounds like a radiator filling up.

we had to move. I understand how awful constant noise outside of your control is.

shes just gone out and left her dog barking outside, it’s horrendous.

I don’t think we can afford to move yet, we loved this house til this family destroyed it for us.

Can u have some.sound proofing installed on the adjoining wall?
I'm in a senior but the dividing wall is so thin we can hear our neighbours cough!
Fortunately they are fairly quiet tho.

Speak to them first off they quietened down last time
So worth a shot

I can hear my neighbours lighter clicking when they sit in the living room smoking joints. I swear some houses amplify sounds rather than block them out.

Earplugs and REALLY loud white noise might help a bit. Maybe look into getting some soundproofing for your walls? Seems ridiculous you can hear someone's mop in a different house! I'd honestly be tempted to move in your situation, even if it meant downsizing. I know from experience that noisy neighbours can be horrendous

I don't say this lightly; if you can afford to move do it. Downsize or move areas. People who are inconsiderate don't change, and neighbour noise and dispute can feel like it's ruining your life. I've been there. Do not make a complaint to the council - it won't lead to anything. If you can; get the hell away from them as fast as you can.
Sending so much sympathy.

Don't report, don't complain and get an exit plan!

Or install soundproofing??

Update - noise was very bad this morning, woken up at 5am with the smashing of the mop and then constant door slamming, it was too much.

I went round and asked if they could stop smashing doors. Woman started screaming at me saying they hear me too. She said she’d lived in council flats all her life & not once had anyone complained about any noise. I said it was the laminate and she said they are thinking of replacing it.

It was all very stressful & I don’t know if it will make any difference.

Bugger sound proofing etc, why can't arsehole neighbours behave like normal human beings and the answer is their entitlement is greater than anyone else's peace and happyness. We had dick neighbour for six years n now got another nut job. Feel your pain op.

In my experience noisy people know they are noisy and do not care. But they do care when others make noise. If you can bear it make loads of noise when they wouldn't want it.

I would move. I spent 16 months with noisy neighbors and it broke my health.

I feel your pain OP. My previously quiet neighbour moved his GF and her 2 small boys in. All I hear all day is them running around screaming and slamming doors. We are saving up to move, but in the meantime noise cancelling headphones are a god send. I have listened to lots of interesting podcasts and audiobooks in the last few months.

I have thought about making noise myself but the only way it would work is to do it at night. They get up at 5 am 7 days a week & it all goes quiet around 8.30 pm when they must go to bed. We could slam a few doors to wake them up, I’ve fantasised about just ringing their doorbell non step when they’re asleep. Ultimately though they’re always going to win because they get up so early.

misspiggy maybe your neighbour will break up with noisy girlfriend & you’ll get a peaceful home back?

I can dream!

it really is awful having noisy neighbours. Even when they are out I find myself on edge waiting for them to come back.

I have thought about being noisy back like you, but you will never win unfortunately. Given how your neighbours have been, I expect she will just double down and start making even more noise.

If you can afford them though, good headphones will at least give you a break. When the kids were up ridiculously early the other week, I put mine on with some white noise and did get another couple of hours. I shouldn’t have to wear big headphones to sleep, but that’s where we are 🤷🏻‍♀️

I do find myself on rightmove looking at rural property quite often at the moment 😂

Gosh. I really do feel your pain. Just this afternoon i shot round next door, iPhone recording everything. Shouted the 3 students down , was verbally abused. Sent email to council. Rang police. I was so furious after 3 months of putting up with with yet more noise from yet more students.

I suggest report them .