It's my birthday and

[HappyMehday]

3 kids have gotten up and gone to school without saying Happy birthday to me.

DP got up and asked 'do I want my present now or after school,' I day after school as already running latehe doesn't say happy birthday either.

2 kids come in to ask where XYZ is, they know it's my birthday.

3rdbisnsaying he has a belly ache (this is a weekly battle that school is aware of) which turns into a 30 minute shit show of trying to get him dressed.
. After him shouting at me that he hates me and I never believe him when he's sick, I say 'It's my birthday today, you know'

He Screams that he doesn't care.

I'm so sick of making sure these kids have everything they want on their special day and having a day like this myself.

I want to just get dressed, take all my Christmas savings and fuck off

Sorry for typos. Am crying. Just so fed up

Happy birthday.

I feel your pain. Thankless task. And often unappreciated. Mine is tomorrow and will be similar.

Can you treat yourself today?

First off Happy birthday . Second if you have some time to yourself , go for a coffee and a lovely cake at some point today.
it's not about your birthday , it's the feeling of being undervalued that has made you feel like this.
A birthday ( unless it's a special one ) is really no big deal , but it's the way your loved ones deal with it is what matters .

Aww, happy birthday. That sounds like a crap start to the day. Can you treat yourself, do something nice, meet a friend for a fancy coffee and a pastry? Kids can be super self involved.

Hope you find a way to enjoy your day 🎂

Take some of your Christmas savings and go treat yourself to something today!!! Come back though ❤️

Happy Birthday! 🎈

Sympathy op. This happened to me too. I ended up telling them they’re all crap and asking them how they’d feel if I couldn’t be arsed with their birthdays like they couldn’t be arsed with mine. They were very sheepish.

Are you working today? If not, ring a friend and go off for a long lunch and vent. Treat yourself to something you want from the shops to cheer yourself up.

Happy birthday OP 💐

Happy Birthday 🎂 Hope your day gets better. Kids can be such ungrateful little sods and are usually nastiest to the people they trust the most.

Happy Birthday.

I would bugger off out for the evening as soon as the last one is home!

Have a nice meal out. Let them get their own food and your partner sort out the school uniform, homework etc.

@HappyMehday
Bless you
Happy birthday

Parenting I have come to realise is more refereeing
Crisis management
And slavery

My kids are lovely but can be self centred if it's not about them it is hard work but have some time out today and go and buy yourself something lovely 😊

Kids are selfish sometimes, they can’t help it but it can feel shit from time to time. It usually helps me to think that every other mother has encountered these moments, and whilst it may be you going through it now, it was me yesterday and will be someone else tomorrow.

can you do something to treat yourself today? Buy yourself a lovely scented candle and have a cuppa in peace

happy birthday x

Happy birthday OP!
Please find some time in your day for a little treat - doesn't need to cost too much but just do something that you like.
I would go to a favourite cafe and have a coffee alongside a slice of gorgeous cake or two.
I would also tell them later how upset you've been, if you did this to any of them for their birthdays, they'd be upset too.

That’s shit. Have you got any plans for tonight?

I'm so sorry this is happening. When you feel calmer this evening I would sit them all down and explain how hurt you feel by this and tell them that you feel tha t you might not bother with their birthdays. I would then tell your DH that he needs to step up a work harder and get his children to acknowledge you in the same way that you work with them.
happy birthday

Sorry to hear you’ve had a rubbish start to your special day, OP.

I would go and get some decorations and put them up outside so it embarrasses & shocks them into a reality check them when they get home from school!

If they’re at the age where they can nag and moan, they’re at an age where they can take on responsibility for acknowledging your birthday…this is so sad. Grab a big cake, some candles and light it for yourself when you’re all together later?

They do need to be made aware of how this has made you feel.

I hope your day improves 💐

Happy birthday. And yea, take some of those savings and fuck off for today, do something entirely self indulgent.

I would have coffee and cake out, then the cinema, have a massage and text DH to tell him he is organising dinner, and that he can also kick the kids arses and explain just how shit they have made you feel.

It's my birthday too 🥳

This is 100% your husbands fault. If he made a fuss so would the kids. Tell him you're disappointed

Happy Birthday @HappyMehday !
My 50th is in a few weeks and I've put €20 aside to take myself out for coffee and cake on my morning dog walk, I'm sick of being generally disappointed with a complete lack of thought ( and effort) on my Birthday too.
Please do something nice for yourself today & dont do anything for anyone else !

Happy birthday OP 🎂 🎈 🎂

Happy Birthday!

OP, what happened on all your previous birthdays? Have your DC and DH always been allowed to neglect you, or is this behaviour new?
I think you need to up your self esteem and your expectations - do not ever accept this level of contempt again. At the least, I would ensure that you treat each one of them, on their own birthdays, the way they have just treated you. Give them a taste of their own medicine.
My DH died when our DDs were still a baby and a toddler, but the nanny always helped them to crayon a home made card for me, and later drove them to the shops to buy me a small present with their pocket money. Once they were teenagers, they made sure I had a cake and thoughtful presents. Now they are adults, they take me out to dinner and produce super presents - I got an iphone and flowers for my 60th!
They have grown up respecting me, not taking me for granted. This works both ways, of course, but you need to lay the foundations as early as possible - respect yourself, and insist that they do too.

Happy birthday op

Happy Birthday, I am so sorry this has happened to you and don’t ever feel silly for feeling disappointed and let down. This happened to me last year on my ‘big birthday’ and it was the lowest I’d felt. Children, much as we love them can be the most ungrateful of critters. I’m not sure how old your children are but they are clearly old enough to know it’s your birthday and to understand. Quite honestly as long as they were in school/had childcare I would do exactly as you said, take your savings and go and have a nice day. Take the day for yourself if you can, and do what you want to do. When you come back from your lovely day I’d explain to them all just how awful you’ve felt and how let down you are.
You deserve more from them and have been so let down, like I say it happened to me a few years in a row and it’s a horrible feeling.
Your not alone, and I hope your birthday gets better. xxxx

Did your day improve ?

How old are your children? They sound really ungrateful. I feel sorry for you, it must be tough x