How to manage in a job you hate

[UnbearableLoss]

Just that. It's not just that I hate it, I reckon I'm probably shit at it too.

I'm job hunting but there's nothing there. I'm willing to take a big paycut but draw the line at working evenings and weekends and that's all there is out there right now.

Anyone else in the same boat managing to keep sane?

Yes, I feel the same and work in retail.
I’m trying my hardest to find the things about it that I do like.
My colleagues are nice for the most part, and the hours are ok.
But like you, I’m job hunting.

I feel the same OP but really like my job and it suits my skills but hate the stress and harsh senior management. I'm fed up with sleepless nights and worrying about messing up due to ridiculous workloads.

I'm in the public sector and lots of my colleagues are crumbling under the strain. Never known the morale so low.

I have amazing colleagues and care about what I do but need to look after myself and my health as its making me ill. Definitely time to leave if its possible to find an alternative!

Think of the money and the good parts if there are any.
Make looking for work your second job, don't stay there until it crushes you.

Make an exit plan. Keep looking for jobs. Save up money so you could have a bit of spare capacity if you did feel the need to resign. If you had to get an evening/weekend job (worst case scenario), do u have ideas?

Yes the money is what is keeping me going. Prepared to take a paycut so seeing my current wage as an advantage with an end date on so to speak.

@shoots I'm public sector too. It's such a state right now. There are really hard working people that the place would fall apart without.

I fancy a total change in direction but I live in an area with few opportunities so trying to achieve it means travelling, unsociable hours etc which just mucks up the good family life we've got right now. I'm actually quite lucky to have this job but knowing that doesn't stop me feeling overwhelmed and stressed.

@Namenic I've done weekends / evenings / second jobs in the past don't get me wrong, but now I've managed to get away from that and can commit to after school / weekend activities with the kids I don't want to go back to it. Unless I was moving to my ideal job that I'm passionate about it would feel selfish to sacrifice this.

Good luck with it! I only asked because I’ve hated my job too (it was anti social hours but would have taken another job with antisocial hours to get away). I ended up career changing (to job that better suits my personality and is more flexible - tech company). Can you look at some remote working jobs?

Give it a year, then stockholm syndrome will set in. You'll be fine.

I've been there OP in a job I realised from the first day had severe management issues. I stuck it out 8mths, but looking back have no idea how? If I'm honest, it was purely to have 8mths on my CV rather than just 1-2 weeks.

Try to look at any positives whilst looking for another job. I enjoyed the park nearby I'd eat my lunch in. A few colleagues were nice. The commute wasn't too bad etc.

I'm now in a civil service job but solely working from home on my contract. Its been one of my best jobs ever! Flexible hours, lovely manager and work load managable. Clearly there are vastly differing roles in civil service, so look around. Check on the Pulse site for jobs. Best of luck.

Oh civil service, I'd never considered that since remote jobs have become more available. Good to have another place to check.

In an ideal world I'd move house and go to uni and change to healthcare. For many reasons this won't be possible for a long time. But one day...🤞 Until then I just need something to keep me sane

Life's too short fund another job.

I'm in NHS transferred recently to another site and I hate it, have nanaged to get my old position back, not great but the lesser of two evils. Will probably look fir something else whilst I'm there

Keep planning your escape- there will be another suitable job at some point. Widen your search.

Through gritted teeth, spending hours on indeed etc and turning the worst managers into Jane Austen characters in my head, plotting cosy crime novels, an episode of Black Mirror, or just generally resorting to gin. Sometimes with chocolate as well.

For personal reasons I've just moved from a (very good) NHS Trust (still had its problems and share of bonkers self centred overpromoted senior corporate managers - that definitely got worse over COVID-19 while all the actual clinicians were doing silly things like saving lives).

The Trust I've moved to though is beyond awful and just about all the corporate managers are clueless, inexperienced, arrogant, ignorant, and borderline delusional. It's apparent how little the organisation cares about its ordinary non managerial staff by the sheer state of the paths, carparks and routes away from the main part of the buildings. The way things are done is like some thing out of the late 1980s. The computer access is so bad and restrictive it's on the public risk register for the Trust, junior doctors have been highlighting it for years in the GMC survey, and on more than one occasion when I've asked what systems are in use I've got blank looks followed by, " What do you mean by system?"

My own job role would normally be done by 3 people ( I've worked in and for 7 Trusts including this one). Nepotism is absolutely rife and there's an unhealthy level of iconography (life size bios of the board as you enter the main building, not just a poster with head shots like in a normal Trust). The amount they pay out in annual legal fees is eye-watering.

I knew it wasn't going to be as well run as my last Trust but I am gobsmacked on a daily basis at what goes on in this one and actually furious on behalf of my colleagues and patients. There's a culture of fear and the Freedom to Speak Up team might as well be called the Shut the Eff Up team - I wouldn't personally trust them with my travel pass. There's one particular manager who I suspect is going to end up costing this Trust thousands and thousands of pounds due to their inexperience and some of the decisions they are making (was a graduate whizzkid in a financial job just 3 months ago, now almost director level, no previous NHS experience).

In previous awful workplaces it's usually taken me 4 months to get to the stage where I started looking for another job. In this one it was about day 4....