Is it possible to make these accomodation arrangements work?)

[Superwash]

For various reasons I'd quite like to hide from Christmas this year. It will just.be me and very quiet 19yo DS1.

A friend has invited us to stay at his holiday apartment somewhere warm and sunny. It's very tempting.

There are two rooms. So, do we each share with our sons, or do the two sons share and I share with my (very platonic but definitely male) friend?

His son is 5 years older than DS and gay, if that makes a difference. The "boys" don't know each other.

My friend hasn't mentioned sleeping arrangements, but he's a sort of sleep on whatever sofa will have him kind of chap, so it probably hasn't occurred to him to think of it in advance.

I haven't mentioned it to DS yet. He'll probably tell me to go alone, but I won't do that and leave him over Christmas, so it could all be pie in the sky anyway.

I think each share with your own DS.

Agree share with your DS

Share with your son.

Does your son even want to go away? Does he know the people you’re going away with? If he does, then just ask him what arrangements he’d prefer, and then as your friend what arrangements they’d prefer. It’s very hard to give advice when there are so many unknowns! It wouldn’t be my idea of Christmas as a 19yr old, I’d find it a bit awkward.

Was it not discussed as part of the invitation.

This is the sort of thing I would expect to have sorted out, before I decided whether I wanted to do.

Puzzlin'

I would think your 19yr old son and the 24yr old would both prefer a room of their own- and not be sharing with each other nor their parent! Surely, you'd need a place with 4 bedrooms and not be shoe horned into 2?

What beds are in there? Would you potentially be sharing a double bed with your son also???

I'd say absolutely not! Have your Christmas elsewhere. Get the know the 'friend' and if things work out, consider the trip with them alone in the future.

I'd share with my son - but we've always been happy to bedshare (well, I say happy, I mean tolerate the farting and fidgeting if I'm honest)

Any idea on if it's singles or doubles in the rooms? Because it could also work with one person on the settee if one possible pair doesn't want to share - or just take an airbed?

You can’t ask two men who don’t know each other to share a room. Sounds like the apartment just isn’t big enough, unfortunately.

No you can't ask your son to share with a random, nor can you reasonably expect him to share a bed with you if he doesn't want to.