One night stand - shall I just not bother?

[Hi71934]

So last night I met a guy in a bar and he came back to mine. We had sex and got on well. I don’t know what I want and I think he’s the same, but I genuinely thought that after our conversations I would see him again, on a casual basis at least.

I messaged him this morning (on Instagram as he added me on that last night - he didn’t take my number), saying nice to meet him, and he didn’t reply until 8 hours later. The tone of his message was a bit “off”, not how I expected him to reply. He didn’t ask any questions and now he has just left me on read.

Should I ask him if he wants to meet up again at some point, or just leave it? He was talking last night about how women aren’t treated with respect yet I am getting very mixed messages from him right now and would rather just know what he’s thinking.

This is so true. When I was a teenager I was sooooo confused about why this guy kept saying he loved me, sleeping with me, then not wanting to be my boyfriend. Some men just say anything.

You text him after the ONS, he knows you're all game, ball in his court and he's not going to have to do any effort because he "has you". He's afraid you're going to chase after him for a relationship so he's sending that "back off" message. If you chase him more he will run away and won;t hear back, if you go radio silence he might text you in a couple of weeks wondering if you're still "game". If i were you I would be cautious with this one because a once in a blue moon shag is sometimes not worth the pain and energy, I mean... you've met this guy once and you already opened a thread so me thinks that making a fuck buddy out of this one can turn into a cat & mouse painful experience.

There’s some sort of quote that goes along the lines of “if a man makes you feel confused then he’s not into you, when he likes you he will let you know”.

A very wise maxim. Painfully true!