So Been through alot the last couple of years or so. Ranging from daughter in domestic violence to my grandson almost being taken away from dd. The person is in prison. We all had to get moved under life in danger.
There have been problems with my son for many years. In hindsight probably from a younger child. But I never saw it at the time looking back I think it was there . He has alot of mental health issues that have led to aggression, violence, and being paranoid. He trys to be very controlling has very aggressive to me. To the point it has felt like DV. But there's very little help out there for child to parent DV. We begged for so much but got fobbed off ignored etc. This is until ds tried to end his life and now they are all reaching out speeding things out etc . He's having assessments now. But they are making a decision weather he stays with the complex /urged team . Or if he gos to the standard team and waits for a long time to get help.
Now the silly part.
I have been one person coping with all this on my own with no support or help what so ever.
I was/am seeing someone. But I felt so overwhelmed and felt I could not cope and it all felt to much. So I told him he can't come round on a regular basis any more because it feels like to much to cope with I have to much going on. So now he only comes every couple months for the occasion weekend. He has our 2 children every other weekend. He only does the fun parts though as his mum does everything for him.
So he's here this weekend and he's doing my head in. He's not really done anything wrong to be honest. But he makes a mess it does My head in. My kitchen can be clean and tidy. I cook abd clean as I go. All the kids even the younger ones scrap their plate and washes it. But him he says thanks that was lovely others to take my plate out with a smile so I think he's doing me a favour I go in kitchen and there's our plates in the kitchen side left over food on them not scrapped washed or anything. Always used T bags and drops of tea all over the side. I cleaned the kitchen an hour ago and made it clear that if anyone eats they are to wash their plates /mess after and I had to force him to acknowledge me.
We have been watching come dine with and someone was making apple crumble and they said just like mum used to make. And he started swearing at the TV saying F-ING pr&t etc . His actions did not even correspond with what was hoping on its kind of odd. He does it several times throughout a program abd projects his voice as he does it so can't hear the TV.
I know I'm being a bit out of order and picking at things. I don't even know what this is about. I think maybe it's a straw that broke the camels back type thing . Just a rant I guess.