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Competitive Parenting by Proxy

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TheSnugglyDuckling · 30/10/2022 14:06

Just saw on social media that a woman I used to be friends with had her first baby and it brought back how she acted when I had my first 5 years ago.

I had a terrible pregnancy - as well as having a lifelong medical condition that made it very difficult, every trimester there was another medical issue (one requiring a trip to A&E) - ending in a C section and at the same time I was going through a lot of very painful family stuff. When my baby was born we had no support from either sets of parents at all and were absolutely ravaged by a baby who wouldn’t sleep, wouldn’t breastfeed, I had PND, was pumping round the clock etc etc

She was aware of all of this and yet every time I saw her would delight in telling me how her sister, who’d had a baby at the same time, was already training for a marathon, the baby was breastfeeding so well, sleeping through the night etc etc. Ironically I think her sister (who I vaguely knew) would never have been so insensitive as to rub it in my face like that when I was struggling so much. But I think my friend was doing it because she was unhappy in her own relationship, her partner was very flaky, nowhere near ready to have a kid etc

Anyway, I distanced myself after that. But just wondering if anyone else had experienced similar from people?

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