I'm annoyed that I'll probably never live alone

[Digforvictories]

I went from my parents house to move straight in with my boyfriend and had a baby straight away (that's why we moved out). I have kids and a dh that I love but I'm so upset with my younger self that I didn't give myself a chance to live alone.

Even if dh left me I'd have the kids.

I just want to be able to put my tea down without somebody spilling it for me. or to have a bath without having to bathe everyone else . or just brush my teeth without having to fight with everyone to brush theirs.

I just want some space and I'll probably never get it. That's fine, it was my choice but I rushed in and now I feel like I went from child to adult without having the fun and fancy free years.

You’ll just have to outlive the DH. The others will leave eventually. Plan for a wild old age!

Oh I relate.

Except I did live alone for a year in my 20s. It was BLISS. Then I got married and had a baby.

I remember realising that (in the absence of a tragedy which I obviously don't want) id never live alone again and I was so down about it.

It's a lot having little kids. You won't live alone but you will definitely have more space, time and freedom as they get bigger. Space time and freedom are the best things about living alone.

Also think about planning a holiday by yourself etc. even a night in a hotel can make you miss them and be glad to be back together.

I feel the same. My kids marvel that I've never lived alone. I moved out to uni and had flatmates, then boyfriend who I then married. I think bliss would be having a little bolthole that was mine alone. Off to buy a lottery ticket...

Oh I feel this! I always thought I was going to grow up to be a spinster then I met DH and got married straight out of uni.

Be careful what you wish for. When DC were young and they and DH were driving me mad with their clutter, I used to dream of a one room flat all to myself. Then DH died at 54, just as our youngest turned 18 and was off to Uni...

Outlive your DH problem solved.

There's a thread on MN called: The older I get, the less responsibility I want.

Lots of posters talking about feeling guilty that they just want the responsibility of pets and people to stop. And I think if you've never lived alone it can be difficult to constantly be surrounded with people or to not be able to just go off travelling. We're all reassessing our lives. But no doubt the second we were left alone or without responsibility we'd find another negative emotion to feel! I've never lived alone and I do sometimes guiltily have a daydream.