Can someone please talk me down?

[Bluey2022]

Sorry if this comes across as rambling but I will try and keep it brief so as not to be identifying

A family member has made an accusation to another family member about me which s 100% untrue

The family member had said initially they had reported said accusations to the police and then retracted this days later and said they wouldn't do this etc

Fast forward to 6 weeks later and I am getting a barage of abusive calls threatening me with the police, being accused of lying, told I have upset several member of the family and they are currently debating wether or not to go to the police alongside some really hurtful personal comments

At this rate I'm tempted to contact the police myself 1) to prove my innocence 2) to remove the threat

I just don't know what to do anymore, I work full time and have 5 DC and feel under constant stress as it is and this feels like the tip of the iceberg, once my DC were in bed I broke down in tears and have no one I can speak to right now about this

Stop engaging then unless/until they do actually pursue a legal avenue.

Can you give the items back? Not suggesting you are ‘guilty’ but clearly there is some batshit stuff going on here.

I would suggest you write everything down. (It's called an Affidavit or Statutory Declaration it doesn't need to be a formal document at this stage).
Include which family member said what and when and where that conversation happened.
Include what you inferred from that conversation and why.
Include all the context and make a note of anyone else who was there at the time even if they didn't hear the conversation.
Included details of anyone you told about the conversation afterwards and where you were when that happened.
State that you are making this statement to the very best of your recollection.
Sign and date it and have someone independent witness your signature.
If necessary you can make it a formal document and have it signed before a solicitor.

Call police. I would. You are being harassed. I couldn’t sit on a knife edge waiting for them to strike, I would call police myself. Then when this crap is over block everyone involved.

Let’s imagine OP has the ‘correct’ recollection but the family member, for whatever reason, remembers it differently. The point at which they start a witch hunt within the extended family AND escalate further by threatening to involve the police is surely when you think - I need to give this back and just ignore the rest of them from now on.

What the heck are item these - jewellery? money? furniture?

It all sounds incredibly far fetched.

so it’s money. Someone said here have this money to pay for a holiday. You went and enjoyed said holiday. Now they are saying where’s my money? Is that it?

OP you’ve written this much so it would not be outing to say money. Presumably it was cash so there is no trace either way, else there would be a trace they gave it to you. Alternatively they are saying you stole it from them physically, which would imply a forced entry or some manipulation or theft whilst visiting their home.

What a mess.

I don't imagine this would come to much unless you have accepted money from someone who is losing their capacity (or has lost it). Possibly best if you can to put some sort of provision in place for repayment.

Yes it was money, not for a holiday, with all the stress it's causing I would happily pay it back but then that apparently means I am guilty as well, I can't win 😪

Is it actually possible that they can prove that the person didn't tell you that you could have the money?

How did you obtain it? Did they make a bank transfer, did you withdraw it with their card, did they give you a cheque?

Sorry OP, I misread and thought you said a family member had accused another family member of something and said it to you, rather than the other way around.

They sound awful jealous and money grabbing to be honest, probably just pissed off as they feel entitled to the money themselves and are hoping to intimidate you into giving it to them 🌷