Wwyd if your dc ended up in the same class as your school bully's dc?

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Would you feel awkward?

This has happened to me, a girl that made my life a misery and now her child is in my child's class.

No idea if she remembers but she spent a year bullying me until I was too scared to go out alone. Beat me up with all her mates round her, wrote in graffiti that I was a slag anywhere and everywhere, chucked all my stuff out my bag all over the bus, spat at me., followed me around b none calling. All because her boyfriend dumped her and asked me out. I wasn't even interested in boys and told him to get lost.

The child obviously should be given the benefit of the doubt. They might be lovely or they might be bullied by the mum themselves. I guess the mum might have changed but I wouldn't be keen to be friends so I'd just try and keep my distance if I had to see her.

I wouldn't think anything. The child didn't do those things.

Honestly, I'd move schools.
But I was bullied to the point I tried to kill myself for the first time at 14 so I perhaps have a more extreme reaction than many.

She will remember.

If you meet her pretend you don’t remember her/act like you have no idea who she is.

I of course know that her little one hasn't done anything but I'm sure that our paths will cross and it will be so awkward.

I would feel very uncomfortable in this scenario.

however what I would try to do is appear confident and happy in her presence and try not to show any discomfort

easier said than done you have my sympathies

I think you have to take this scenario as it comes. There might be no issues at all and you may learn to tolerate your bully’s presence but equally you may not feel that way and you may have to make changes.

How awful. Im torn between you not giving her the time of day to you being the better person.... Either way it's not the child's fault.
Surround yourself with your new Mum friends & enjoy your child's time at primary - it goes so fast.

If you have another good option, I’d move schools.

If you don’t have another good option, network with the other mums lots to ensure she can’t isolate you socially.

Is there only one class per year? You could see if they can move your DC?

I’d feel sorry for her. She must have been a very mixed up child to do such awful things. Who knows what she went through when young. Nothing however makes her poor behaviour ok. It’s likely she’s had years to reflect and hopefully she’s now embarrassed about bullying. I’d brazen it out and act totally normal, like nothing ever happened. I’d probably might choose my moment a few months from now and ask if she remembers me.

Sign up your child for self defence classes. Then if anyone starts bullying her she can fend them.off