What would you think if you asked the grandparents to see the kids and they suggested a date 6 mo the in the future?

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Just that. What would you think?

We are going to them btw. Not seen the kids for a long time, never come to us but perfectly fit and active eg on holiday abroad every few months, regularly transatlantic so it's due to frailty they don't come us.

I'd think they sound like XH parents...

I'd think I couldn't be bothered with them and give up even trying.

That's so sad. But unfortunately you can't make them want to be close to their DGC.

Some people just aren’t really that interested in children even their own grandchildren. What we’re they like as parents? Maybe they feel they did their job raising children but don’t want to be involved in gc and just want to do what they choose.
Have you asked why?

I'd think they were probably hoping you'd stop asking and hopefully not come.

I’d feel sad that they can’t even be bothered with a relationship where they get to do just the fun bits.

Wouldn't it depend why it was in 6mo?

I mean, if it's a 24 hr, costly journey so they want to be able to give you and DC a block of quality time, would be different to if you mean popping in for an afternoon locally.

I wouldn't be arranging anything with grandparents like that.

It's fil so in the army hardly ever present and left when dh was 8.

Our youngest is 8. We last saw them in 2017. Recently I have been wondering if its us / dh but I asked dh to ask if we could see them. Fil didn't reply for months and has now said April occording to dh. Kind of confirms my gut instinct that it's FIL. He is happy to go on holiday with our adult son as he is now drinking age after being similarly disinterested for all of his life. My eldest isn't a boozer so I don't think he will be invited on holiday again