Just with life in general? I’m just ranting/moaning really
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DD is 8. And has spent the last 2 weeks in my bed, sometimes she starts the night in my bed and never leaves other nights she starts the night in her bed and I wake up with her in mine. I’m just going with it, it’s just the two of us so it’s not biggy if she’s in my bed.
But I was really looking forward to a proper nights sleep last night and tonight without being kicked or climbed over or too hot as she was supposed to be at her dads. But he’s cancelled, like he cancelled the last weekend contact – he takes her to his family for contact rather than his and if they say she can’t stay over then he has no sway. But I smiled sweetly and told him she could stay with me for the weekend again. Despite the fact I know there’s only 2 weekends of contact left this year as he doesn’t have her at all in December because his work apparently can’t guarantee him the weekends off (Not criticising btw I also work and know how hard it can be but it just sucks a bit) – he will have her every weekend in January and/or February to make up for it but that’s a long time to wait for a break when you’re already exhausted.
I also work full time across 4 days. But haven’t worked over half term because holiday club is only open 10am-3pm and costs £55 a day it was cheaper for me to take a whole weeks unpaid leave than try and condense my week even more and end up working for nothing and it would have been nothing because the childcare costs don’t get repaid for at least a month often it takes 8-12 weeks so I’d have less money until I got it back and still be out of pocket due to the reduced hours – unpaid I’ve only lost about £150 working it and using childcare I’d have likely lost in the region of £250 – in the summer it’s easier I work 3 longer days per week and put DD in childcare and then swap childcare around holiday with my neighbours whose DC go to the same holiday club and holiday club is on until 4pm in the summer as well so I get an extra hour
a day to play with (it’s the same price year round, so works out slightly cheaper in the summer as well as it’s only £9.50ish an hour rather than £11 an hour in winter).
Was hoping for an hour to myself this morning for the first time in over a week while she was at the only activity that runs year-round (think like gymnastics, swimming, dance etc) but we got there and there’s a note on the board as you walk in saying it’s cancelled.
But I’m back at work Monday and I’m exhausted. We’ve had a fun half term, Halloween event in our local town, playdate with the neighbours DC (whose dad paid me to have them for the day so I’ve actually only lost about £100) and doing some badge work for Brownies. My day off isn’t until Friday and I’m just about clinging on, and hoping that my boss doesn’t do her usual post half term “Mary/Jane/Sam are off with their kids this week can you cover?” because it’s in my contract that I will occasionally cover for colleagues so can’t say no. And it’s been nice between the constant “Is it dinner time yet?” “Can we do this it only costs X?” (which I don’t have as I budget down to the last 1p and had already used the half term budget).
So anyone else just exhausted? I’d give up but I don’t have time to.