What would you do about this fireworks get together invite?!

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In the summer a few of our neighbours had bbqs and we took it in turns to invite each other over. Bring a bottle and we provided all the food etc. it was lovely. An older couple who came who have no children and a smaller house and they want to repay the favour of the invite which is lovely. But they've invited us on bonfire night which would be ok as we'd go early doors and be back for the dog before the fireworks probably get going.
Now I've had a message from her asking me to bring fireworks and the other people going are bring some. I said ok thinking I could get a little box to leave with them as I make my excuses.

Now another neighbour has messaged asking me to drop off £40 and she will get the fireworks and that's what everyone else is putting in!!

£40 is a lot for me esp as I won't be there for the fireworks. My dog will be too scared on her own.

But I look really tight if I say I'm not giving it to her.

What should I do?!

20 minutes is still too long if you multiply that by 10 local households doing the same thing over a weekend.

A public display in each area is one night that people can plan for.
Stay in, prepare children, possibly medicate pets, use plug ins etc.
It's an hour max to keep pets/children/traumatised people calm in whatever way they can.
I don't have nervous pets but they still hate fireworks. They get distressed even with doing all the recommended prep work, training and medicating them. I'm not willing to give my girls Xanax for a week so some selfish cunts can have their little selfish displays at home.

We've had fireworks this week due to Diwali. There's more this weekend, Monday probably and then we're onto bonfire night with random lots of fireworks going on at different times.

We get through that then it's fucking Christmas and new year and round we go again.

It's not fair and horribly antisocial and inconsiderable. Just ban public sale and have really good displays, maybe out of built up areas.

This. I would not be a party to that.

I clearly meant I considerate. 😄

Just explain you won't be staying for the fireworks due to the dog

It’s not just one nervous animal though is it, it’s countless terrified animals that don’t understand what’s happening. Don’t let that bother you though, a person that can reason and has understanding of what’s going on. As long as you enjoy yourself that’s all that matters. Selfish twat

I don't think anyones done anything wrong here. The people hosting aren't the ones asking you to spend a set a,puny and the neighbours who are collecting the money are telling you the amount that everyone else is giving. I don't think £20 each is a a completely ridiculous amount.

However there's nothing wrong with saying that you would prefer to do your own thing. I don't see any reason why you need to give a curt reply.

I love finreworks so a group neighbourhood thing where someone else provides the food sounds perfect.

Best to nip it in the bud. Say you can't afford to spend £40 on fireworks right now as you're saving for Xmas. You won't be staying for them anyway as your dog will be terrified and you'll be getting home to comfort her.

The sale of fireworks to the general public should be banned. Awful things. Cause so much distress to animals.

It's 40 pounds or do you mean per person?

It's a lot of money for a lot of people. I would just sack the whole thing off. Stay home with your son and dog.

Nip it in the bud op and explain that £40 is far more than you were expecting so you won't go.

Also who leaves their animals alone on fireworks night.?

I wouldn't go, think of your poor dog

If you do go, leave some music on to try and drown out the awful noise

Yes, say this. It is true.

You can buy small boxes of quiet garden fireworks for about £15 which DC can enjoy and won;t scare the dog. We used to have these when DC were small. They hated the big bang noises too.

I absolutely love fireworks and I don’t see why they should be banned just because someone has a nervous animal.

I can't stop thinking of that poor horse lying there in agony for hours with her spine snapped, waiting for the vet to come and end her misery.
Even one story like this is too many, but sadly it isn't just one.

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