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Halloween help!

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HandyGirl76 · 29/10/2022 08:13

My son was invited to a Halloween party. He's 12. He dressed up, took some pumpkin chocolate lollies and off he trotted. We envisioned apple bobbing, music, pin the trail on the zombie and silly food. We picked him a few hours later and he was terrified, the party involved watching a 18-rated terror movie. He now hasn't slept, is scared witless of the dark and has spent the night in frightened tears. We're all exhausted too.

Please help, how do I address this? I hate seeing him this way.

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KangarooKenny · 29/10/2022 08:15

Id have slept in with him so you both got some sleep.
He needs to know that if he’s not happy he texts you and you pick him up. He needs to have the resources to get out of uncomfortable situations.

PatriciaPattersonGimlin · 29/10/2022 08:21

Holy crap, Who does that to a bunch of kids?

ahunf · 29/10/2022 08:23

I think it depends on the child my dd is 10 she loves horror movies. Admittedly not ones with ghosts.

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Cosycover · 29/10/2022 08:33

What film?

TeenDivided · 29/10/2022 08:48

I'd be furious at the parents for lack of supervision / thinking showing at 18+ to 12 year olds was OK.

I would ask why he didn't step out of the room, but peer pressure is strong and also I guess he may not have realised how scary it was until it is too late. Which is why I blame the (non-)supervising parents.

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HandyGirl76 · 29/10/2022 09:57

Thanks all. He doesn't have a phone yet so maybe it's time to change that. He did leave the room but it was too late by then. I slept on his floor last night.

He can't remember what it was called but it was about a mother being possessed and turning on her children?

He's so scared and I don't know how to help him. Obviously he knows it's not real but he has such a vivid imagination.

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HandyGirl76 · 29/10/2022 09:58

TeenDivided · 29/10/2022 08:48

I'd be furious at the parents for lack of supervision / thinking showing at 18+ to 12 year olds was OK.

I would ask why he didn't step out of the room, but peer pressure is strong and also I guess he may not have realised how scary it was until it is too late. Which is why I blame the (non-)supervising parents.

I am cross...

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KangarooKenny · 29/10/2022 09:59

If he’s going out without you he does need a phone.

ahunf · 29/10/2022 10:07

So he's in year 8 without a phone?

BooksAndHooks · 29/10/2022 10:26

Whos party was it how was it arranged? Not having a phone in high school is extremely unusual. It is very likely what they’d be doing, what they’d be watching was all discussed on group chat beforehand and he missed out on the info because he didn’t have a phone.

I definitely wouldn’t have assumed kids party games type party for high school kids.

Is this a group of friends he knows well / usually socialises with?

BobbyBobbyBobby · 29/10/2022 10:30

I hen you picked him up and he was terrified what did you say to the parents and what did they say to you?

BobbyBobbyBobby · 29/10/2022 10:30

When

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HandyGirl76 · 29/10/2022 10:30

Yes he's at a prep school and won't leave until next year. It's not high school.

The party was arranged by the mum.

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HandyGirl76 · 29/10/2022 10:31

BobbyBobbyBobby · 29/10/2022 10:30

I hen you picked him up and he was terrified what did you say to the parents and what did they say to you?

I didn't pick him up, a friend whose son also attended collected him. It was fancy dress so sounded pretty innocent. He hangs around in quite a young crowd.

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