How often do you invite your parents for dinner?

[LisaJool]

And vice versa? My DPs are late 60s, very fit and healthy but seem to have officially morphed into Old People (TM) in the sense that they don't host anyone ever and only come to visit me (30 minutes away) if we invite them for dinner. Everything seems so oddly formal now between us, DM will drive past my house and not call in ("I know you are busy") but this makes me feel like I can't visit them without an appointment either.
DM hasn't hosted Christmas for about 20 years, and it's been many years since we've eaten in their house, so it's not as if she's been doing it up until now and has just got fed up.
I'd love to be invited to their house for a meal, they have a lovely house and dining room, so space isn't an issue.
Just wanted to ask how often you have a meal with your parents, and who hosts who?

My dp’s are also in their 60’s. We meet for brunch in my city twice a month or so, and Dd and I pop over every other month for dinner.

I host a big lunch every so often, but usually when my siblings can come as well.

My parents live a ten minute walk away. I used to invite them for a meal once a month but must admit since I had the baby it has been way less. I just don't have the time or inclination to cook "impressive" stuff anymore and wouldn't incite them over for spag bol in all likelihood

Never. My parents don’t show any care towards me and I’ve given up trying with them. My in-laws only care begrudgingly/to see DS, but never invite us over except DS when they look after him in school holidays. I’ve stopped inviting them over since my H died as they’re a pair of children and suck the life out of me, they’re so demanding of attention.

My cat allergy came up in conversation recently and my MIL actually said ‘oh I’m glad you mentioned that, that’s why I don’t invite you over’. It’s literally never been a problem except that I don’t stroke the cat when I’ve been there in the past! 🤷🏼‍♀️

Once every 5 years. They live 20 mins away.
My in laws, once a month or so, at their house

@Ostryga Im the only one who hosts anything for a family get together. One sibling invites DP a few times a year, 2 step siblings never invite them, nor do they get invited either. I invite everyone to my house a few times a year, but no one else does this. Its really sad as growing up we were very close to our cousins, and I remember brilliant family Christmases, but things just seem so cold now and everyone doing their own thing 😢 Lots of my friends still go to their parents for Sunday lunch, so I was just wondering if its just my family that's odd.

Rarely, but DH lives half the world away and DM is a 4 hour drive. If they are near for any reason we fight over who gets to host!

DDad! Not DH.

Never, if they do eat at mine. They tend to turn up
With a cool box of pre packed sandwiches, or pasta salads. I'm happy to get stuff in. But they bring their own. (They are a bit odd.)

When my parents were alive and in the country (they spent six months in Spain), they came for Sunday lunch every week, and after I had kids and stopped work I would go over to see them for lunch about once a week too. That would be in their 70s - they lived full time in the US before then and my father didn't retire til 72.
We did not see my in laws nearly as much, and we would have to ring them to suggest we come over, say every six weeks or so, and they came to us maybe twice a year.