Downsides of being single? (lighthearted)

[OutDamnedSpot]

I’ve been single for nearly three years now, and the thing I still find difficult is…

Changing a king sized duvet cover. I mean, how? The duvet is so heavy, I can’t quite flick it well enough to get it in properly. I love being divorced. I hate changing the bloody cover.

What are your downsides?

I’m not single but when I was the downsides were

Not being invited to couples dinner parties.

Going shopping and seeing a gorgeous shirt or similar for a man and not having anyone to buy it for.

People watching isn’t the sam in your own when you’re on a park bench or sitting outside a cafe and guessing what people do or where they’re going or what their names are!

Not having a man who can instantly go and answer the front door if a courier knocks as I won’t answer if I don’t have my make up or dressed for bed! Most men don’t care if they answer the door in their pants!

Missing the relationships of a partners family. I’ve always got on well with the parents and siblings of a partner.

No one else to pit the bins out when it's raining.

That's about it.

@OutDamnedSpot For this reason I bought myself a double one instead. Then chose new duvet covers

Having to do all the driving.

Like @LadyInGreene mentioned, holidays built for 2. I was recently quite surprised to find that all of the spa days I could find were deals for 2. It's been a stressful time and I think I deserve a break for one! It isn't something I noticed when coupled up

Otherwise being the one doing all the chores etc all the time and recently starting to dread spending new years alone.

*I’m not single but when I was the downsides were

Not being invited to couples dinner parties.* A relief to many. Much more fun out with friends and a mixed group.

Going shopping and seeing a gorgeous shirt or similar for a man and not having anyone to buy it for. Even when married I would never have thought that - would never be looking at men's clothes (I don't like shopping anyway!)

People watching isn’t the sam in your own when you’re on a park bench or sitting outside a cafe and guessing what people do or where they’re going or what their names are! This can be done alone or with friends! I love doing this alone - I can be much wilder in my thoughts of their lives. DS is the best company for this though.

Not having a man who can instantly go and answer the front door if a courier knocks as I won’t answer if I don’t have my make up or dressed for bed! Most men don’t care if they answer the door in their pants!* I can't answer this as I don't get why some people feel the need to wear make up all the time. I am happy to answer in my pjs with hair scrapes
Up.
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Missing the relationships of a partners family. I’ve always got on well with the parents and siblings of a partner.* Friend's families? I still have a great relationship with exH1's family. Could never stand exh2's!

It's funny how we all miss different things, or nothing at all. For me it's spiders. But I bought a spider catcher. Life is so much calmer and happy.

Total bold fail there!

I struggled to think of any downsides to being single…I have a long list of the positives about being single lol!
I guess if I had to come up with something I’d say the evenings after all the children have gone to bed and I’m watching TV on my own.
It gets so boring I’ve started going to bed earlier and earlier nowadays. I take my youngest children to bed around 7pm (obviously the teenagers are usually in their rooms on social media or calling friends or their bf’s etc). I’m usually in bed by 9pm at the very latest every night and found myself going to bed earlier recently…sometimes by 8pm!!! I just don’t enjoy sitting alone in my living room and watching something without someone to share it with and talk to.
There is a positive to this too though…I don’t have to consider anyone else’s opinion about what to watch and having my bed all to myself is pretty good too if I’m honest. No snoring waking me up or someone pulling my duvet off me in the night.
There’s nothing that huge or upsetting about being single if you compare it to being stuck in a bad and miserable relationship.

Oh….of course there’s one more thing I miss about being with someone…the physical intimacy 😉 BUT that’s still not enough for me to feel sad being on my own!

As a single parent (at the end of half term week...) I'd say lack of another parent. I have had precisely 0 minutes to myself this week. My DC are young , but one needs less sleep so I dobt even get much of an evening alone. Its exhausting.

That said, ExH didn't take any of this pressure off when he was here.

Very happily single here but I have recently had flu and wished I'd had someone to help. But then I remembered my last relationship and the sulking and disgust he'd have for me when I was ill. He'd begrudgingly make me a drink etc. but I'm now certain having no help is better than that. And I found that because I am alone, friends and neighbours rallied round more and really helped- they might not have done that if I had a partner, they'd assume he would help me.

Like a pp, I do get sick of having to do everything but at least I'm not having to do everything for another adult. An equal partner would be a help, but I've never been fortunate enough to find one and I am very much over looking for one.

@MostTacticalNameChange yes bring ill (especially with young DC) is awful. But as you say, I noticed SO much more help than before I was single

Single room supplements!
Not having anyone to take a pic of you when you go sightseeing.

As a single mum, nobody to take care of you when unwell (not that cunty ex did a great job of that - I mean in a loving relationship).
Nobody tot share the bills with.
Being touched by a nice man.

Upsides are endless…

No one else to put the bins out (worst job ever)
I don't have an issue with the duvet cover!