I have two friends I just adore and want to hang out with as much as possible. I have a few others I really like hanging out with every now and then. I also have one friend lets call him Harry. Harry is gay so there is defiantly nothing going on. Harry is a very nice, community focused person. He started off friends with DP, but now him and I have a 1 on 1 relationship while he more meets up with DP in a group. My DP is away a lot.
Harry wants to meet up with me all the time. I think I'm probably one of his only friends he has left. He has depression and you can feel it in his energy. After meeting up with him I feel quite negative. He also is very communist and he doesn't believe in work and thinks the government should pay for everyones basic needs because work is too stressful. We differ very much here.
Harry has always been there for myself and DP e.g. he bought DP and I a meal to our house after a bereavement. He is a good person.
I just dread meeting up with him. He has lots of dark thoughts, always tries to start political fights about the topics mentioned above, and I leave feeling so exhausted I just need to sleep.
Harry will try and come over multiple times a week for dinner/invite me over. He will want to spend all day Saturday and Sunday with me if possible. We have no DC so little excuse.
I meet up with my main 2 friends a lot more and Harry is clocking on. I realise I have fed a web of lives and painted a whole character for my self in order not to offend Harry. I have told him I have social anxiety, that I feel depressed and don't want to socialize, that i'm introverted and like time alone etc all to try and paint a picture that i'm not socializing with others but by myself at home. If I say im socializing with others he will try and weedle his way in. 'What time do you finish and we can meet for dinner?' 'Lets spend the weekend at the zoo on Saturday next weekend then?' I have got to a point where a conversation has to be had.
I still want to be his friend but meet once every three months.
How do I move forward?