Brother is being abused

[Mammy7]

Can anyone help? My brother is 22 and lives with his girlfriend and 2 small children. She is emotionally abusing him, saying things like she will hurt herself if he leaves etc. She has admitted to cheating on him with several other men and is even pregnant to one of them. She goes out for days on end refuses to come back or communicate. She is verbally abusive to me and my family and is controlling when he can speak to us which is getting less and less. My brother can’t work due to all of this as he keeps losing his jobs to her spiralling out of control and being left to look after the children when she is out for days. My mam has thought about calling social services but is worried my brother won’t forgive her if anything happens to the children. But we don’t know what to do as a family anymore? Who can we speak to for advice or help?

Definitely ring Social Care

Are they his children?

Yeah 5 and 1 then she is pregnant with a random bloke and he is still being brainwashed by her

If you feel the children are at risk then you have a duty to inform social services for their sakes

Sorry pressed post before I'd finished.
It doesn't sound like a good, stable environment for them at all.
With regards to your brother, in all fairness he's a grown adult and is free to decide for himself whether he wants to be with this woman. You can be there for him, advise him and let him know you're always there for him but ultimately its his life choice.

Get social services involved, definitely. They are there to support families, I know that's not the rep they get but in my experience they can provide a great support network. It's a shitty situation to be in, you can make an anonymous report if you like. I did it, remained anonymous to the person I called about but gave my details to SS in case they needed further info. I felt awful about it and wondered if I had done the right thing but it has turned out to be a tremendous help to the person involved.

That is the same advice I give my parents but she is so scared to ring the social services because of how it will upset my brother and who knows what this girl will do or lengths she will do. I mean we have lots of character witnesses to what’s been going on but it’s whether they would get involved to say this has been happening. My brother and this girl could just deny all knowledge and the social might not do anything?

Safeguarding is everyone’s responsibility- but also it’s not on you or your Mum to make a decision about what is the right thing to do or whether things are ok.
you are worried, therefore you must ring social services and let them support and evaluate