Why do people think it's OK to use bad language in public?

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Particularly when there are children about?

On train full of families with young children and a man on the phone whose conversation started with "Fuck off you cunt I'm on a fucking train and so fucked after last night........" and so on.

He's not angry with the person he's talking to and can't be oblivious to all the children around him so he obviously just doesn't care.

This annoys me so much! I have a 2 year old that repeats everything.
If someone swears near us they get the evil eyes!

Well that’s OTT but they will hear swearing and tbh I think there are worse things.. though I repeat that conversation you overheard is just plain wrong

I mean his use of language is quite extreme! But if I'm in a public space, geared towards everyone (so not a childrens setting) then I'm not going to temper my occasional swearing. I'm certainly not going to eff and Jeff for the sake of it, but I'll just speak how I normally speak, which includes the occasional swear word 🤷🏻‍♀️

Some people truly don’t care. My exp uses this language in front of/to our daughter as, ‘there’s nothing wrong with swearing, it’s just words and this is how I talk’.

(he wasn’t sweary when we got together btw. He matured inversely)

Because it is allowed to swear in public.

Your child will be fine. Just explain you don't use those words in your family.

Because it is allowed to swear in public.

Your child will be fine. Just explain you don't use those words in your family.

And why do people have highly personal - and loud! - phone conversations in public... 😱

Can be entertaining at times, but more often than not it's just annoying and cringeworthy.

With this particular person because he was still ‘fucked’ from last night, I reckon he was oblivious to who else was around.

His loudness would annoy me even if he wasn’t swearing.

some people just don’t care about their surroundings and who they may annoy.

I have four adult children who are completely unaffected by my propensity for so called foul language. Unclench. They’ll hear it on the playground and in shops, you can explain your way of doing things.

Just don't try to look at the pictures on his phone, though.

I would rather be surrounded by adults swearing than children shrieking or people loudly parenting.

Your children will be fine, adult space = adult language.

whilst the man on the train sounds unpleasant, there is nothing intrinsically wrong with swear words.
Ive managed to bring up two kids who don’t swear at all despite me using all sorts of colourful language.
They police my language , not the other way round.

Although my username might tell you everything you need to know about my liking for swear words .

ps, I don’t go around calling people cunts, or indeed any name. But a well timed “fuck this buggery shit “ can be very helpful .

I don't swear but I don't really see what the problem is apart from a lack of vocabulary in some cases

Please don't worry about my children, they are old teenagers and not here anyway!

It's more about realising (and caring) that people find that level of language offensive and respecting that.

People always find 'something' offensive though!?

You can't win

I would never swear AT someone but find a good swear very cathartic, like Hoof here.

I have two small children and I might gently scold
someone close to us (aunts/uncles etc) if they swear in front of them or just ask them to tone it down, but I do swear and I have told the kids that they are grown up words not to be used until they are adults. Realistically you can’t protect them everywhere from hearing words (and that’s all they are - just words!) but you can teach them that some things are for adults, some are for kids.
My eldest has actually told me off when I’ve sworn in the car before (someone pulled out on me). There are so many worse things a child can grow up to be and do; a bully, racist, cruel, drugs, alcohol, other things harmful to their health. In reality swearing is not the end of the world.

I agree, but if you had to chose the 2 swear words considered the most offensive, fuck and cunt would be right up there.

Fuck is overly used, has no impact anymore

Sadly it seems acceptable. I tell my daughter if she does swear do it in German or French e.g. Scheisse or Merde it sounds better and not many people will know.

I was at the playground earlier with my toddler, there were a group of approx 6 11/12 year olds and literally every other word they said was Fuck. Every now and then isn't so bad but it shows someone has limited vocab when most of the words are juat repeated swears. I also agree that it's disrespectful.

I also hate this and I'm not against swearing. I'm just against loud and persistent swearing on a packed train. Always think they're showing off which is too cringey for words tbh

Because it is? It's my job to teach my child how I think they should behave in public.

I hate this. And I hate the ‘it’s just words’ brigade, as if words are insignificant things that do no damage.

Lots of things annoy me about modern life, mostly centred around the inability of huge swathes of the population to behave in a way that doesn’t negatively impact on others. I was brought up to be considerate of others and to adjust my behaviour so it didn’t cause offence or inconvenience. No-one seems to be bothered about this any more, they are all too busy loudly and offensively exercising their rights to be as revolting and anti-social as possible at every opportunity.

Fuck is overly used, has no impact anymore

Very true. So many people just use it as punctuation - often before they even know what they're going to follow it with (I don't know why 'um' or 'er' wouldn't suffice) - and it sounds so very ridiculous.

Replace it with an everyday non-offensive word and it would be patently obvious to everybody how utterly stupid they sound:

"Sausage... what the sausage are you sausage looking at? You sausage idiot, sausage listen to me, I'm gonna sausage kill you if you sausage do that sausage again, sausage......... ah, just sausage off, sausage.........."

It sounds ridiculous too when people use 'like' in a similar fashion, but at least that isn't an inherently offensive word.