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Someone I talk to quite frequently online claims to be a successful investment banker with a multi-million pound property portfolio and who earns hundreds of thousands per annum (who also happens to live in a flat above a betting shop)

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socialmedia23 · 24/10/2022 23:39

My gut instinct is that truly rich people would never boast about their 'multi-million pound' property portfolio online or that it would be so easy to find out where they live. He literally shared a video of his new home plus location (Camden), plus its quite easy to search on companies house). Plus when you look at his linkedin, he seems to be doing sales/marketing rather than investment banking.

In fact his latest comment to someone who posted is ''i'm working on several long term projects with my current employer that if I manage to pull it off, within the next 5-8 years, I expect to earn an 8-figure sum for my role in brokering this deal and the first figure won't be a 1. I know life is grim and tough, that's why I'm so busy making more money rather than bitching about how the NHS isn't good enough. I'm off to Dubai to negotiate some deals in November, I'm flying business and being put up in one of those ludicrously expensive hotels in Dubai that's totally over the top. I make sure I take care of myself by being rich, I suggest you try that too since you're just as aware as I am for the need to become rich.'

I know it should bother me less but he is honestly quite rude about people less fortunate than him and frankly quite boastful. There are times when he boasts about he lives in a luxurious house and people who are familiar with the london property market have pointed out that flat above betting shop isn't really considered a 'luxury home'; not that there is anything wrong with such; its just not somewhere you tend to imagine multi-millionaires living in even in London as its a far cry from penthouse apartment in Kensington (which is what i imagine multi-millionaires would opt for if they prefer apartment living). However, he keeps insisting that he is so incredibly rich. I know that a lot of mumsnetters probably do invent fantasy lives but why does he do it AND also share his real life identity so people with some Googling skills can see through it. I am guessing if he wants to keep his privacy, he wouldn't share his real life name and photos of himself and vlogs! And if his life is real, well does it sound really likely to you?

I am not sure why it bothers me, but I guess its because I have engaged with him and i can see the inconsistencies; so the thoughts don't go away? Plus I guess he assumes when I point out the inconsistencies that I must have a 'working class mindset' and I must be poor, so i guess him being insulting is getting to me (even though it shouldn't!)

Oh and he isn't a troll, i am quite sure of that.

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Pixiedust1234 · 24/10/2022 23:40

Not all Nigerian princes are trolls.

socialmedia23 · 24/10/2022 23:41

I am asking mumsnet, and as the person in question lives in the UK, i want to ask if it makes any sense from a uk context. a lot of his readers don't come from the uk...

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socialmedia23 · 24/10/2022 23:42

Pixiedust1234 · 24/10/2022 23:40

Not all Nigerian princes are trolls.

You don't know the name and identity of the nigerian prince. I know his name (as he shared it) and he is definitely a real person. His education/workplaces are real. He shares stuff about his siblings, and they are real people. Its the job title that is glamourized and i guess the financial situation that i can't verify.

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Subnauctic · 24/10/2022 23:43

He might not be a troll but he is most definitely a twat.

Aquamarine1029 · 24/10/2022 23:43

There's one born every minute.

FlakeySalt · 24/10/2022 23:44

More than likely, he’s hoping to run some kind of ponzi crypto scam and lure people in by pretending that he’s made money from it.

Men like this are common on Instagram- posing with flash cars but you only ever see them standing next to them so could be in a dealership or outside Harrods. They’re just trying to create the illusion of wealth.

How do you know him? I’d block and move on.

Pixiedust1234 · 24/10/2022 23:44

You don't know the name and identity of the nigerian prince.

But he talks to me too...😮

Dogsogdog · 24/10/2022 23:44

It’ll all be nonsense

AssumingDirectControl · 24/10/2022 23:46

I know someone just like this, absolutely full of it. None of it true.

More than likely, he’s hoping to run some kind of ponzi crypto scam and lure people in by pretending that he’s made money from it.

Yup.

SundayFunde · 24/10/2022 23:49

Subnauctic · 24/10/2022 23:43

He might not be a troll but he is most definitely a twat.

Perfect quote

HarrowCatlady · 24/10/2022 23:50

Oh of course it's complete bullshit. Don't be taken in by it - never share your details with him, and don't fall for him or anything like that.

He's a fantasist bullshitter. You should pity him.

socialmedia23 · 24/10/2022 23:50

AssumingDirectControl · 24/10/2022 23:46

I know someone just like this, absolutely full of it. None of it true.

More than likely, he’s hoping to run some kind of ponzi crypto scam and lure people in by pretending that he’s made money from it.

Yup.

I started reading his blog years ago when I was new to the UK. He was a lot more down to earth in the past. I don't think he is a ponzi scheme, he has never asked for money.

Usual structure of post goes like this- 'political issue in UK (NHS under strain; Boris Johnson resignation' etc etc); poor people suck (they voted for boris, they are so fucked due to nhs); i am so rich so that politics don't affect me, my brilliance earns me thousands and millions etc etc)

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TLKlover · 24/10/2022 23:50

I know a few people like this.

They are lovely people but always have to have the better story of what you've done.

I've taken to smiling sweetly & changing the subject. Publicly questioning them doesn't sit right with me & I know I'll soon be home in my comfort zone.

If it's online, I like the comment & disengage. I'm not a person to start competing with people...I'm far too lazy & tired to bother lol.

socialmedia23 · 24/10/2022 23:51

HarrowCatlady · 24/10/2022 23:50

Oh of course it's complete bullshit. Don't be taken in by it - never share your details with him, and don't fall for him or anything like that.

He's a fantasist bullshitter. You should pity him.

no chance of that, he is many years older than me!

I just don't understand it. Its not for money and its something people can easily verify.

Why lie so much!

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EndlessMagpies · 24/10/2022 23:52

He sounds like an utter fantasist.

If by some remote chance any of this is true, then he is a prat.

TLKlover · 24/10/2022 23:55

I think I've potentially misunderstood this but my theory stays the same. Smile sweetly, verbal nods, minimum engagement & laugh on your own that he's a bit of a self pretentious prat!

Nagado · 25/10/2022 00:01

I just don't understand it. Its not for money and its something people can easily verify

Because some people just do mental things, like pretending they’re ill or that they work for MI5. And I’m sure there’s some explanation that a mental health professional would be able to come up with, but your average layman just needs to know that they’re bonkers. There’s no point pointing out inconsistencies to bonkers people because they are never going to admit they’ve lied. He’ll claim he lied on Job sites because he was sick of attempts to head hunt him, or to foil kidnap attempts. So you either dismiss him as a fantasist or roll your eyes and laugh at his claims.

NOTANUM · 25/10/2022 00:07

There was a woman in my circle like this. She loved with her family in an okay area in a rented 2 bedroom house and claimed she owned several multi million pound houses in Hampstead. She drove me potty with her fantasies.

socialmedia23 · 25/10/2022 00:08

TLKlover · 24/10/2022 23:55

I think I've potentially misunderstood this but my theory stays the same. Smile sweetly, verbal nods, minimum engagement & laugh on your own that he's a bit of a self pretentious prat!

oh i know he is a prat, he kinda admits that he isn't a nice person.

I guess i am a relatively young person and probably most of his readers are. he claims that he only works 25 hours a week in finance and yet earns so much money. This doesn't square up with my own experience and the people i have met but then i guess as i am a younger person, I don't dare to admit that i know everything? Which is why i am interested.

The part about him owning a few properties doesn't shock me as much. My DH's single ex colleague who is from a modest background owns 2 BTLs on an income lower than my DH (and we only own 1 flat) but she is a good 15 years older than us, so i think age does play a part.

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KnickerlessParsons · 25/10/2022 00:11

What do you talk to him about when he's not boasting about his wealth?

socialmedia23 · 25/10/2022 00:11

NOTANUM · 25/10/2022 00:07

There was a woman in my circle like this. She loved with her family in an okay area in a rented 2 bedroom house and claimed she owned several multi million pound houses in Hampstead. She drove me potty with her fantasies.

how did she do that? Surely people would go' don't you live in XXXX?'

when did you buy in hampstead? How did you buy in hampstead. Maybe british people are too polite lol.

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socialmedia23 · 25/10/2022 00:13

KnickerlessParsons · 25/10/2022 00:11

What do you talk to him about when he's not boasting about his wealth?

politics, but he turns everything into a conversation about his wealth. In the past, you could have quite an enjoyable discussion without him boasting about his wealth but now its impossible.

He is gay btw so its not some online crush or love affair (not that it would be possible even if he wasn't gay!)

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Puyo · 25/10/2022 00:31

Well he's a total fantasist and best thing to do would be to stop talking to him and giving him the attention he craves.
As to why do it when it's easily verifiable? Most people won't verify, happens time and time again with various scams, fantasists etc, it's easy to verify its nonsense but people either want to believe its true or just don't verify

Bobshhh · 25/10/2022 00:34

Oh come on! That's total nonsense and why on earth would you continue to engage with him?

No one earns an 8 figure sum brokering a deal and if by some miracle they did, it would be reflected in his lifestyle..

socialmedia23 · 25/10/2022 00:36

Puyo · 25/10/2022 00:31

Well he's a total fantasist and best thing to do would be to stop talking to him and giving him the attention he craves.
As to why do it when it's easily verifiable? Most people won't verify, happens time and time again with various scams, fantasists etc, it's easy to verify its nonsense but people either want to believe its true or just don't verify

I know I am taking the view that it is probably not true about him being a multi millionaire but could it be that I am overly sceptical. I do know rich people like that who work in similar fields (though not so sure about the amounts they earn) and also the property he lives in doesn't add up.

Was hoping more worldly mumsnetters might tell me- yes there are multi millionaire, highly paid sales/marketing people in the finance industry who live in flats above betting shops in London and that is not unusual!

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