So incredibly lonely...

[Sshhhhh]

I'm sure there's been a million and one posts about this but tonight I'm really really struggling with loneliness.

I'm pretty much a single parent to 2 kids, complicated situation with their dad but essentially not together and we're civil for the sake of the kids. I have zero childcare, have gone NC with family as its dawned on me as I've got older what a toxic environment I grew up in and friends have drifted away as I've focused on kids.

But I'm so fucking lonely. I want someone to cuddle, to ask about my day, to give a shit about me. I just want to matter enough to someone to care.

This time of year up till New Year I really find myself spiralling as its all family oriented and I have no one...hell, I've spent the last 5 Christmas' on my own.

Please, does anyone have anything that might help? Or can even relate?

Yes I feel exactly the same even made my own post about it but different situation as my ex isn’t involved at all. It’s these times of the year when you realise how alone you are, it was my birthday last week and I thought how nice it would be to have someone that cares about me (rather than buying my own cake and presents 🫣 only did it for the kids sake) have you tried dating again? Can you date whilst your kids are with your ex?

Thank you for replying.
It's utterly soul destroying isn't it. There is no other reason for me to exist other than to raise my children. I'm completely bereft tonight, so so down.

Unfortunately, dating isn't an option, for a few reasons...not that I'm in any way an attractive prospect to anyone, in any way.

Me too.
I don't think I deserve to be with anyone ever though.
My ex says I was awful to him. He was awful to me. But says I'm the cause of all his problems now.
I'm just a big monster.
I'm so scared of losing the only person I've got

It is horribly Lonely I don’t think people realise how lonely it is unless they are in the situation. I’m fed up of people telling me to just make friends instead it’s not that easy to make friends as an adult, I’ve certainly not found it to be and it’s not the same as having someone special either.

Not much different for a divorced 75 year old man,Only a couple of "friends",life empty,mental health problems and a pair of twats living next door.

How old are your DC? Do you get any time to yourself at all? We all need people in our lives. You deserve it! So let's try and work out how to make it happen. Most obvious place to start (according to me who knows very little about you mind) is through your children.

I'm feeling a bit the same! Recently separated and living with my two children. I can go days without speaking to another adult. I don't see my siblings often and no one seems to check in for a chat - they all seem too busy. I see others out on nights out and group photos etc and think what about me 😕 I'll never date again and have very little trust left in me sadly, but as you say, having someone to snuggle up to have a chat and share a giggle would be nice. Your definitely not alone x

I feel for yiu. I have friends, a job, but since my partner's suicide and the legacy of Covid I feel very alone. My friend says,be kind to yourself. That's a good place to start. Perhaps you could join s club or something,not to meet thst special person but to have sime face to face with others? It might help . Virtual hug.

Most days I do not speak to or see anyone.