Hello everyone
i have been reading advice on mumsnet for a couple of years and have learnt a great deal, this is my first post as I’d really like some specific help please.
i think my husband has been seeing escorts and people from hook up sites. I found history of his searches a couple of years ago. He did a number on me, which I now know is gaslighting, and followed what I now know to be the script.
He’s sorry, he didn’t follow it through, he hasn’t looked since, I needed to get over it as I was becoming a bit unhinged.
So on the surface I have got over it.
But only until next year when my boys finish their a levels then I’m off. Im getting my ducks in a row. Got a job, have saved money, have access to all info I will need for a divorce.
what sticks in my throat is he thinks he’s so fucking clever. I know that he’s used all the places I found stuff to cover his tracks better. He’ laid low for a long time after discovery but he has just started deleting cookies, using a different search engine etc so I can’t see what he’s up to.
i know none of this matters now and that I already have reason enough to leave.
Before I go I want to show him recent searches and wipe that superior smug grin off his face. I think only people who have been through this cruel mental torture will understand my burning need to be validated.
the only place I have left to search now is the router history. I read about someone using ‘open dns’. I’ve tried but it doesn’t work. Can anyone help me with a way to look at websites that have been visited through my router please.
I’m strong, I’m ok, I’m delighted that he’s up to his old tricks before I go. Please help me deliver the perfect parting shot