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I just met your mother in law

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J0CASTA · 22/10/2022 23:36

Yesterday I was in a big Tesco store, sitting on a bench near the checkouts while my friend did her shopping. I noticed a couple in their 70s with a two year old, who I assumed to be their grandchild. The child was sitting quietly in the child seat in the trolley while the two grandparents paid for and packed a bag of shopping at the checkout.

The grandmother then came across, threw herself dramatically on the bench beside me and loudly exclaimed how exhausted she was. I made some polite reply.

She then announced

“ This is our first AND ONLY grandchild and he’s a real handful. Our son has a day off every Friday and we have to come and help him as he can’t POSSIBLY look after him by himself “.

I said I was sorry to hear that and asked if her son was ill or disabled.

“ No” she replied “ But GS is SO DIFFICULT , our son can’t get anything done with him there so we have him for the day. Our son’s wife is a special care doctor “ .

She said “ special care doctor “ in the tone of voice one might say “ international drug cartel boss “ or “ convicted murderer”.

I was a bit confused now and muttered something about that being a good job / worthwhile / they must be very proud etc.

She rolled her eyes and spat out “ Oh she’s a right piece of work her. She has no business being so selfish, neglecting our son and and leaving him in this position . He works very hard four days a week and he’s entitled to his weekends off “. Shock

Thankfully my friend arrived at that point and I was able to excuse myself and escape.

OP posts:
BringBackCoffeeCreams · 22/10/2022 23:43

Wasn't my MIL. She'd never speak badly of me. I'm too scarey.

hippoherostandinghere · 22/10/2022 23:44

Not mine either, DH works on a Friday.

DramaAlpaca · 22/10/2022 23:45

Not mine either, she's no longer with us - and I miss her, she was mostly lovely.

Enko · 22/10/2022 23:54

Nor mine she was wonderful 3 years since she passed and I.miss her dearly..

My mum perhaps but dh is not a special doctor 😀. And she has been dead 7 years. And mt youngest is 18..

Seriously op the woman sounds like a wind up but please remember many people have good Mils

Redhop · 22/10/2022 23:58

Not my MIL, she'd never have the children, she's too busy being retired

AdoraBell · 22/10/2022 23:59

Sounds like it could be my late MIL.

J0CASTA · 23/10/2022 00:32

AdoraBell · 22/10/2022 23:59

Sounds like it could be my late MIL.

I guess it’s possible, she was wearing a lot of make up Grin.

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Wilkolampshade · 23/10/2022 04:15

Not mine either. She was lovely.

MegGriffinshat · 23/10/2022 04:59

Not mine. She is no longer allowed to take my children anywhere after she left my then 3 year old to play in a toy shop while she went to the shop next door because she always left dh in the ELC as a child while she did the shopping in town “and he was always okay.”

(She came back to security and the police who asked for my contact details and called me to pick up dd, we will never forgive her).

ihatethefuckingmuffin · 23/10/2022 05:14

I’m sure you used to be able to leave your child at Elc as part of being a member. Never used it as the closest store was miles away.

Anyway the negativity could easily be my mum. Sun shines out of males arses and us mere women are there to serve all their needs. One of the many reasons I am nc

custardbear · 23/10/2022 05:20

Lol - could in parts be my MIL ... albeit they told us from the get go they wouldn't be the kind of GP who had the GC set days each week 😆

Changeee1546789 · 23/10/2022 05:39

Are you sure it wasn’t my FIL?

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 23/10/2022 06:03

I didn't think she was allowed out by herself,

... after last time. 🤔

Riapia · 23/10/2022 06:36

“Threw herself dramatically.”

Thought she would.

cantthinkofabetterusername · 23/10/2022 07:07

Not my MIL my youngest is 6 and my MIL is lovely

Vallmo47 · 23/10/2022 07:21

What a vile piece of work.
But definitely not my MIL.

Mapleapple · 23/10/2022 07:32

Definitely not mine either, as a battle hardened feminist she is very proud of my career, very proud of her son being an amazing Dad, and doesn’t do childcare!

Holly60 · 23/10/2022 07:56

Not mine I'm afraid mine was lovely (also not mine because she's not around any more 😢)

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DeannaFromHumanResources · 23/10/2022 08:07

Redhop · 22/10/2022 23:58

Not my MIL, she'd never have the children, she's too busy being retired

The nerve of the woman!

Lmgify · 23/10/2022 08:19

Imaging your son having to take care of his own child on the day he’s meant to take care of his own child!! The nerve of the DIL keeping her professional career going post kids after studying all these years. Just kidding obvs, she does not seem nice.

but not my MIL, she’s got similar views though and told my husband that she didn’t think I should be working full time after having kids… oh also she’s only met the eldest three times and the youngest once

Lndnmummy · 23/10/2022 08:21

Not mine. I love her to bits and don't know what I'd
do without her.

DisforDarkChocolate · 23/10/2022 08:24

Definitely not my MIL who would have loved to see her grandson one day every week and could cope with 'difficult' children.

First MIL, definitely the sort of thing she would have said because the sun shone out of her crappy sons's arse but she would never have offered any help.

TheHouseonHauntedHill · 23/10/2022 08:24

Why didn't you ask her why she felt her son couldn't look after his own child?

keeprunning55 · 23/10/2022 08:29

Was it in Tesco? Yep, that’s my mil!