Have you ever had an identity crisis?

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I'm 49 and I guess I'm menopausal (which may or may not be relevant). I feel as if I'm having a real identity crisis. I'm married and DH loves me but after many years of togetherness, I don't rock his world. My kids are teenagers with their lives in front of them. I feel as if I don't know what I like, what I stand for. I'm old and I guess a little depressed. Sometimes I feel I would struggle to describe myself and what I like, which is weird. Any tips?

Hrt ?

Don't look inwards for an identity look
Outward -you are entering a new part of your life what do you want it to do next ? What have you not done that you may soon have time to do ? You have almost half your live left - where do you want it to go ?

Things I identify with/as...
My faith/religion
Wife and mother
I love yoga and attend classes when I can
Running - so much clear headedness and that amazing feeling of pushing my body
I identify with the place I'm from and the people who live here (tight knit community)
Extended family, friends, and my place in these groups of people and the fun we have together

I hope that makes sense? I feel I belong to a lot of different things, which I suppose could be grouped into hobbies, people, place, and beliefs. Do you really not have identities within any of these areas? Perhaps just one area is lacking? It sounds like it might be hobbies/interests? If that's the case that is definitely solvable! You just need to find your thing.

Ooh midgetastic is right! Hopes/dreams/plans is definitely another area to think about.

Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth. Just do what you enjoy and sod the rest

What do you enjoy? What makes you feel fulfilled and joyous?

Do that.

This.

I think it's pretty common at this age, we spent so much time focusing on everybody else that we've forgotten what we like to do because we haven't had any time for it. Also, we are perhaps not focusing on our careers anymore, having got to where we want to and not particularly having any further ambitions, or at least not so intensely, I know this isn't applicable to all women but it does seem to apply to a lot. Same possibility with the housing situation, we are generally more settled and not striving for the same things as in our 20s and 30s.

What did you do before you had kids? I am picking up a couple of interests that I had in my childhood and 20s that are helping me to feel that I have something for myself.