How to help dd's friend?

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Dd is 16 and her friend (B) is 15. They're both in year 11. B is having some trouble with her stepdad. It started with him making crude comments to her, which stopped for a while after her mum intervened. But have started again.

Yesterday he removed her bedroom door, because her "room was dirty". Her mum had a word and he's out it back for now. Her mum isn't really that interested in B, so won't do more than talk to him.

B does her best to not be home when her stepdad is. She stays late at school until he leaves for work, yesterday she came home with dd until he'd left.

I've offered her to stay the night whenever she needs. She hasn't yet, but the offer is open.

I don't know who to speak to about this? I'm not even sure if there's anything that can be done. I can't contact school until November, as it's half term next week.

Wondering if anyone has any ideas?

That poor poor girl. Would you be happy with her living with you? She is definitely at risk from her stepfather.

You can't contact the school but you can contact social services or her mum- they are the two routes the school will take anyway.

Oh this has made me feel sick! Also sounds like contacting her mom would be a waste of time, why didn't she get rid of this pos after the first crude remark? Contact SS.

I wish I could but I just don't have the room, or the money. The offer for her to stay the night is always open and for as long as needed.

is B's bio Dad on the scene?
What are the crude comments?
Has her Mum stopped caring since Step Dad arrived on the scene?
Statistically there's quite a high risk from Step Dads, compared to bio Dads too.
Can you speak to B's school? It looks like Mum is prioritising new boyfriend over her own child

Thanks. I'll contact SS. I know if I contact her mum it'll backfire on B, her mum has been abusive before.

(schools have contact details for during the holidays, check out their website for the details, they all
have emergency numbers for
child safeguarding contact)

Unfortunately her dad committed suicide 2 years ago. She also has no other family (that I know of) in this country. I don't know exactly what the comments were, but I know they were sexual and about her body.

Thank you! I'll look at the website.

Contact the school and also follow up with them - what have they done? Can they confirm they have followed procedure etc.
Separately contact social services and again follow up.
Let the girl know you have done the above so that she knows you’re watching out for her. Ask her to let you know if anyone has contacted her to help. (If she wants to tell you). Let her know you’re interested, you’re there, you’ll keep pushing for help from someone. You care.

This turns my stomach. Thank you for looking out for this poor girl.

Also you could help by taking a general interest in her future. What would she like to happen? Would she like to move out? How is she doing at school and what would she like to do when she leaves? Talk her through things, be the mum she doesn’t have in that respect.

And if things escalate at home offer to help her to approach the police.

You could contact the NSPCC who will raise it with the local SS and they will investigate. If you feel that she is at immediate risk, you call 999. The school safeguarding policy should be on its website, in there you should find numbers to contact for out of hours safeguarding concerns.

Most schools don't have a school based contact for out of hours safeguarding but they may have the number for social services on there. The only thing schools can do is either contact parents or refer to social services.