Dd refusing to go to school - child hitting her in reception

[Kihu]

Dd is in reception and today and had an utter meltdown. Has been crying for over 45 mins refusing to tell me why. She wouldn't get dressed or get ready but mabaged to put her uniform on.

She finally calmed down and told me she doesn't want to go to school and hates school because a girl has been punching her at school. She's mentioned this girl a few times over the weeks as she has said that she's torn DDS pictures, pushed her, taken things from her etc.

I've asked her if she told her teacher when she'd been hit and she says she did but the teacher didn't do anything.

She's still at home and has gone to the other room to cry again after she told me. She used to say she loved school when she first started so this has really taken a wrong turn.

I didn't realise this other girl was such a cause of trouble for dd and not sure what to do.

Talk to the school

I think you can contact the school and tell them the reason why you daughter is absent.
Once you start with absence and insisting that the real reason is recorded, it may make them take notice.
I totally understand and support you. I would keep mine off if they were this distressed too; after all, we don't, as adults, suffer this in work.

This would absolutely not have a blind eye turned to it in my kids school. They proactively teach children about behaviors, managing emotions etc etc if problems arise they manage and deal with it. That's what you want.

If the teacher doesn't respond when you're child objects that's a big problem as it suggests there is a culture of ignoring problem behaviour.
But first establish the facts. Allow your daughter to stay off so she knows you take her seriously and don't accept her being bullied.
Request an urgent appointment where you ask the school what they know of this problem your daughter has.
It might be they have intervened in ways your dd is unaware and they might appreciate hearing that steps so far haven't helped and more is needed. They should be willing to work with you to resolve things.
Or,
If they deny there is anything is happening worth noticing you've got a bigger problem and should look at making a complaint/moving schools.

Contact the school!! What else would you do? Call them now explain why DD isn't there and ask for her teacher to call you back as soon as she can to discuss. Be ready for it not to necessarily be exactly as your DD describes (although it could be). Good luck!

I had something similar with DD in nursery. Woke up absolutely refusing to go school one morning. Finally told me it was because a girl hit her the day before. She had told the teacher and the teacher didn't mention it to me at pick up.

I let her stay home and went to the school and told the teacher that she won't be in because she was hit by another pupil. I said they should've told me and she won't be back in until they can assure me she will be safe and I will be notified next time.

Definitely talk to the school and let them know why she is off. Ask them what they plan to do about it to protect your dd. Also ask, as the teacher was told, why were you not notified.

Thanks I called the school and spoke to the pastoral person and she was really lovely and I ended up just crying to her on the phone. I've had such an exhaustive morning and I felt like a idiot crying.

I spoke to her again in school to and she reassured me that they will be speaking to the parent and children. I feel alot more reassured and better but this morning has triggered a whole load of emotions and I feel like a mess!

Ahh glad you have spoken to them and got a positive response. I hope your DD is ok (and you!)