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Would you rather be beautiful or highly intelligent? Lighthearted

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Anon778833 · 19/10/2022 19:59

I’ve always been considered good looking but I think my life would have been better if I was an intellectual. How about you? Or are you lucky enough to have both??

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HeadacheEarthquake · 19/10/2022 23:46

Highly intelligent. Then I could earn lots of money to make myself beautiful and have both.

ManAboutTown · 19/10/2022 23:48

Highly intelligent (although that is perhaps an easier choice to make for a man)

Opens up a much wider world and you don't need validation from others (maybe if I looked a bit more like George Clooney my opinion would be different)

Whatevergetsyouthroughthenight · 19/10/2022 23:50

Intelligence. I am above average academically (not ‘highly’ intelligent, but a couple of degrees, Russell Group University) and it’s served me well in terms of jobs and income.

That said, I am very average looking and wouldn’t describe myself as pretty, let alone beautiful so it would be interesting to see what it would be like for a day or two.

ArcaneWireless · 19/10/2022 23:50

Intelligence. All day long.

Having had a face like a bag of spanners for years, I’m not that bothered about what I look like any more.

But to be super intelligent would be a treat and it would be nice to have something going for me!

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 19/10/2022 23:59

I don't actually understand the question you're asking at all - but I'll see if any of my other blob-fish friends can help me throw some more light on it.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 20/10/2022 00:05

Surely, it also depends on whether the beauty would last you for ever/decades or fade with the years. I suppose your ability to use your intelligence can seriously diminish with age too, if something like dementia gets you.

Looking at it objectively, beauty enables you to encourage/rely on other people to open doors for you in life (you can't actually see your own face unless you carry a mirror with you everywhere you go); whereas intelligence means you can open doors and find opportunities for yourself. Alone on a desert island, the former would be useless, whereas the latter could bring huge dividends to you. For an introvert like me, who values independence, I would definitely say the latter.

Redrry · 20/10/2022 00:21

Mmm I think beautiful. It must be amazing to have that gorgeous confidence that beautiful women have. Yup I'll take that please! Sort of Elle MacPherson but not quite as tall will do.

Wombat100 · 20/10/2022 00:27

I’d rather be incredibly beautiful than highly intelligent.

I guess I’m probably slightly above average looks wise (though it seems to be fading fast with age!!) - that’s certainly not the way I see myself but I was often told by strangers (not just men) when I was younger that I was beautiful which was always flattering.

I also always did well academically and have a professional job…..but it’s incredibly stressful, and there’s always been a pressure to succeed.

So on balance I’d rather be a lot more beautiful than I am but a lot less less intelligent: I feel like it would be less stress inducing and I could just make money from opening an only fans account or marrying an incredibly wealthy man with a yacht.

OhNoOhDearOh · 20/10/2022 00:29

I’m considered attractive and I am actually smart. But I would absolutely love to be beautiful to experience that.

ManAboutTown · 20/10/2022 00:29

@Wombat100 - without blowing smoke up my own arse my iQ tests have always been high but there are downsides - I think it makes me more aware of things that can go wrong and therefore a worrier about them.

Remaker · 20/10/2022 00:33

I am much more intelligent than I am beautiful and I’m happy with that. Beauty fades while intelligence lasts. I see women my age (50s) who used to trade on their beauty and now it has faded they are quite lost and anxious, worried their partners will want to ‘trade up’.

Wombat100 · 20/10/2022 00:40

ManAboutTown · 20/10/2022 00:29

@Wombat100 - without blowing smoke up my own arse my iQ tests have always been high but there are downsides - I think it makes me more aware of things that can go wrong and therefore a worrier about them.

100% agree with you and know exactly how you feel. I worry about everything and sometimes think ignorance would be bliss to be honest!!

ManAboutTown · 20/10/2022 01:02

@Wombat100 - bliss until the train you should have seen coming rolls right over you😁

Kabbalah · 20/10/2022 01:15

Being "beautiful" makes you stand out and you'd be surprised how far you can get just by, "looking the part". Job hunting for example. If you are in the final selection then, believe me, they will remember the good-looking one.

And not all natural blondes are bimbos. I am reasonably intelligent, I went to University to study for a professional medical qualification. I am self-confident, I have no problem using my common sense and I have a practical and inquiring mind. But I have to say that being an attractive woman has made things easier - I rarely get ignored.

That's not to say I didn't have problems when I was younger. You can attract the wrong sort of attention, and from women too, but that is something you learn to deal with. And to be honest I still get some of that, just not so much.

My father, on the other hand, has quite a few friends who never left academia, and who have never washed their own clothes or cooked a meal in their entire lives, and I doubt they would know how. They are also so deadly dull. And there's often a fine line between being highly intelligent and barking.

I get my looks from my mother and I'm grateful my father isn't too much of an egghead. Unfortunately, my sister is barking mad.

Cameleongirl · 20/10/2022 01:19

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 20/10/2022 00:05

Surely, it also depends on whether the beauty would last you for ever/decades or fade with the years. I suppose your ability to use your intelligence can seriously diminish with age too, if something like dementia gets you.

Looking at it objectively, beauty enables you to encourage/rely on other people to open doors for you in life (you can't actually see your own face unless you carry a mirror with you everywhere you go); whereas intelligence means you can open doors and find opportunities for yourself. Alone on a desert island, the former would be useless, whereas the latter could bring huge dividends to you. For an introvert like me, who values independence, I would definitely say the latter.

That's a good way of looking at it, @WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll .

I can see the appeal of both, tbh. 😂My DD, however, recently said that she's glad she's not a "10" as she feels it brings the wrong sort of attention. She's pretty (not beautiful) and highly intelligent. She'll never need to rely on other people's approval, she can outsmart most of them.

thaegumathteth · 20/10/2022 01:23

Sometimes I think if I was less intelligent I'd be less anxious. I'm not a genius but I definitely have a good imagination which isn't always a good thing.

So I'd say beautiful.

HighlandPony · 20/10/2022 01:27

Beautiful. I’ve never been arsed otherwise but I’ve got far in life based on having a decent figure, a good arse and my chebs look perky in a wonderbra.

Blip · 20/10/2022 01:33

I have a close relative who is beautiful.
She has had a very charmed life and people literally fall over themselves to do things for her. Pretty much every time she walks into a bar the barman buys her a drink.
I'd definitely choose beauty.

Cameleongirl · 20/10/2022 03:24

Blip · 20/10/2022 01:33

I have a close relative who is beautiful.
She has had a very charmed life and people literally fall over themselves to do things for her. Pretty much every time she walks into a bar the barman buys her a drink.
I'd definitely choose beauty.

@Blip. I’m sure it’s nice for your cousin, but it’ll stop when she’s past a certain age. If she has brains too, though, she really is lucky, as intelligence is what will really help her. It doesn’t matter that a 50-year-old business professional/
doctor/lawyer doesn’t look as gorgeous as they did 20 years ago, they’ll be respected regardless (and they won’t need free drinks 😆).

Blip · 20/10/2022 08:05

My cousin is now 50, she still has an amazing figure and fab hair and is very attractive for her age, but no longer as head turning as she still was at 40.

She has charm and confidence that will stay with her forever I'm sure and still has a lot of admirers!

She has always done very well in the world of work and got to a good pay level with no qualifications in an area of work where qualifications are usually essential. She has never worked hard at any job either.

Asparagoose · 20/10/2022 09:01

Ponderingwindow · 19/10/2022 21:52

Asparagoose, you are applying for the wrong kinds of jobs. There are entire industries filled with intelligent people who are valued for the contributions they can make to the project. It’s why most of the nerds from school are high earners or esteemed academics. You just have to pick your field if interest, get your degree, and get to work.

I have a PhD in computing. Was bullied right through school and at university too, because I’m smart and quiet. Can’t get hired anywhere, keep being told I’m overqualified. Several times interviewers have “joked” that they’d better watch out or I’ll be after their job. Other times they’ve been more blunt and just said nobody else has a PhD and we don’t think you would fit in. Or they’ve said you seem very academic and we don’t think a commercial environment would be a good fit. Etc.

I am not good looking. And I see other women who are prettier than me walking into jobs with half of my qualifications. So yes, I think beauty is more valuable than intelligence.

JaninaDuszejko · 20/10/2022 09:39

My father, on the other hand, has quite a few friends who never left academia, and who have never washed their own clothes or cooked a meal in their entire lives, and I doubt they would know how.

That's true of many men of a certain age whatever their intelligence. My Dad didn't learn how to cook until my mother was ordered to take bed rest when pregnant with my little brother. If my Mum went away on a trip (which she did regularly) she would cook all the meals in advance until I was a teenager and capable of cooking for my Dad and younger siblings.

Lindtnotlint · 20/10/2022 10:23

If I was beautiful I would still be fat (love food) so wouldn’t be “beautiful” if you know what I mean.

hence, I stick with intelligence. It doesn’t need make-up, hair appointments and a low cal diet to be maintained.

ErrolTheDragon · 20/10/2022 10:40

ManAboutTown · 20/10/2022 00:29

@Wombat100 - without blowing smoke up my own arse my iQ tests have always been high but there are downsides - I think it makes me more aware of things that can go wrong and therefore a worrier about them.

I'm not sure that idea holds water. Less intelligent people may be more susceptible to misinformation, be worried by notions which examination of facts and a bit of logic or statistics would dispel.
Of course there's a happy medium - being too gung ho has downsides too. There's lots of traits not particularly correlated with intelligence or beauty which tend to make peoples lives more or less happy and successful.

Kabbalah · 20/10/2022 12:10

It doesn’t matter that a 50-year-old business professional/
doctor/lawyer doesn’t look as gorgeous as they did 20 years ago, they’ll be respected regardless (and they won’t need free drinks 😆).

I know a few rude and arrogant Doctors who have zero respect.

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