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Overwhelmed at work

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FuckingHell123 · 19/10/2022 18:10

Started a new job two weeks ago. Fuck it's overwhelming. I was in my last one for 15 years and was respected, valued and had a great reputation. I had to leave for various reasons and it was a hard, very emotional decision. I'm now feeling up shit creek without a paddle. The field is similar but the role is very different, I have a lot to get my head around and I'm well and truly in at the deep end with brand new systems I've never even heard of. I get a rash all over my hand whenever I get stressed and it's flared up like fucking measles. Everyone seems nice but it's such a big change for me and I don't KNOW them. You know? Also they don't know me so I have no "insurance" yet. To top it off I think I might have fucked up today and sent something somewhere that can't just be cancelled. I did produce a report for the Director and he said it was very helpful and on the other scary matter I'm pretty sure I didn't hit send and thought "I'll correct that tomorrow on the final draft" but it's a software I'm not familiar with? What if I've sent it? What if it sent itself? I won't find out until tomorrow but honestly I feel so out of my depth. 15 years of praise (I can't go back) and I'll probably be sacked by these guys after a fortnight. It took me months to find this job 😰

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FuckingHell123 · 19/10/2022 18:12

I've already decided if I've fucked it up I'll fess up straightaway and present a new process where I can't do it again but it won't matter, the probationary period is where the impression is formed. I'm so stressed. Going to run a bath.

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DoodlePug · 19/10/2022 18:17

Ah, you're probably over thinking it.

If you had a great reputation at the old place you probably deserved it so you must be good. Even if you're not excelling at your current role yet it must be obvious you're intelligent and competent.

It takes so much time to recruit someone, and presumably someone with your skills isn't that easy no replace. No chance they'll sack you without really giving you a chance.

Summersdreaming · 19/10/2022 18:17

Sent to who? Externally? Even so, just check the second you get in and if it has been sent just correct it with the final version and give the relevant people a heads up to ignore the draft.

Breathe. You are new and learning. You are doing fine.

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Ilikewinter · 19/10/2022 18:20

You need to cut yourself some slack OP! It takes time to settle into a new job ..
However I know exactly how you feel, im 9 months into a new job, my old job I was in for 20 years .... I'd say it took 3 months to feel comfortable and another 3 to feel competent ..... I promise you things will click into place 💐

Optimist1 · 19/10/2022 18:21

Sympathies, OP! Sit yourself down and have as relaxing an evening as possible (alcohol optional).

It's relevant that you were so long in your previous job - over 15 years you must have known the systems, people, tasks like the back of your hand. Now all of these are new, in addition to probably being unsure of the layout of the building! Every day you'll be getting familiar with new things, so in a week you'll feel a little better and in a month you'll have the settling in process well underway.

Try to think about all the reasons why you opted for this role when you were looking to move, and about all the attributes you have that resulted in your new employers offering you the job. Think positive.

For what it's worth, I've never encountered a system that automatically sends drafts of emails or documents, so put that one out of your head!

I'd love to see you post again with updates, but appreciate you may be too busy with all the new things you're getting used to.

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FuckingHell123 · 19/10/2022 18:21

Can't redraft it can only do an amended upload. Once it's gone - it's gone.

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Soproudoflionesses · 19/10/2022 18:22

Bloody hell op give yourself a break!!
You are new at the job which is can be daunting especially after being at the old place so long xx

bigblueyonder · 19/10/2022 18:24

I was in a similar position to you at the start of the year. It gets better, I was like a deer in headlights the first couple of months as everything was new, Covid was still kicking about, everyone in the office was wearing face masks. Plus my manager and team were all remote.

I got through it, made mistakes, had misunderstandings, got people's name wrong but it gets much easier I would say after 2/3 months once everything is a bit more familiar. Deep breath and take each day as it comes.

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FuckingHell123 · 19/10/2022 19:32

For what it's worth, I've never encountered a system that automatically sends drafts of emails or documents, so put that one out of your head!

🤞

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FuckingHell123 · 20/10/2022 12:37

I didn't send it x

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Ilikewinter · 20/10/2022 16:48

Excellent news.....now breath !

HalfMumHalfBiccit · 29/08/2023 21:03

How are you doing at your job now OP.
interested to know as I was in a job for 15 years. Highly regarded. Top of my game etc. switched to another company due to redundancies and bam feel completely useless.
I am in a senior role with a very small team. Too small for the job in hand.
I had a bigger team previously and more reasonable goals.
I don’t know if it’s me. Am I rubbish now? Am I just slow?

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