I’m trying to decide whether I should go to a funeral, and would appreciate the wisdom of MNetters.
My friend’s mum died last week, and I am trying to decide whether I should go to the funeral. I am torn as I did not know her mum very well, so me going to the funeral may seem odd. However, my friend went to my mum’s funeral, and that it meant a lot to me that she was there. Would you feel it was appropriate for me to attend?
A little more background: This is a friend from school. We have both moved away from our hometown, but she didn’t go far while I am over two hours away. She knew my parents quite well as she usually came to my house when we were teenagers (as it was just me at home while she had annoying younger siblings), so I didn’t know her mum that much.
It was easier for her to attend my mum’s funeral (back in my hometown) as it was only a short drive for her, while I’d have a longer journey. I’d only be able to stay for the day, so likely would only see her at the funeral itself. I still feel that I should go, but don’t want to be there if it’s inappropriate.
Disclaimer: some details have been changed in case she or a family member is on MN.