Nice actives for couples to do together ?

[GingerKittenTail]

finding It hard to find things to do together

Cinema, bowling, dinner/drinks, escape room, outdoor activities - high room, biking, walking etc

Music concerts, theatre, cinema, art galleries, museums, English Heritage and National Trust places, walking in nature, riverboat trips.

What kind of things do you enjoy? What's your budget?

We recently picked up some leaflets by the local rambling association that were in the library, detailing loads of walk routes and local history spots. We’re working through them and absolutely loving it. So much history that we had no idea about. And they’re mainly just walks, no rambling involved.

It’s been great for our mental health as well as physical and provided so many opportunities for private conversation that we realised we don’t get at home due to children always being around. Thankfully they’re old enough that we can leave them whilst we go off for a walk.

And it’s free 😁

Walking
Stand up paddle boarding
Cinem

Walks, day trips, cycling, Scrabble, golf, running (Parkrun?), cooking.

We like board games although it can get a bit competitive and there's no problem about babysitting.

My husband and I dont have sny shared interests. He hates the gym, so we take our dog for a walk everyday.

Pub quiz
Play cards
Walking/lunch out
Theatre
Cinema

Explore nearby places by train - places that aren't obvious visitor destinations.

DH and I love walking and hiking - we do that at least once a week together.
We both love theatre and art so we go to shows at least a couple of times a month together.

If there's a band or comedian we both like we'll get gig tickets too.

At home we mainly watch TV together but we also do family quizzes, decorate the house (we never get anyone in to paint - we do it together with the radio on). He loves board games but I hate them so he plays them with DC.

I have lots of hobbies he doesn't enjoy - mainly sporty - swimming, kayaking, bootcamp, and he loves gardening and sings in a choir neither of which I'm any good at.

I think it is good to have a physical outdoor shared hobby with your partner - running, hiking, climbing, swimming, sailing, cycling - anything like that.

I'd love to know what board games are good for two people?

My DH and I don't really have many shared interests, we do both enjoy walking but he is much fitter than me and loves the idea of a ten mile hike followed by a drink in a pub whilst I prefer a two mile stroll to a nice tea shop ..
still, we've managed 35 years of marriage .

Things we have alway done and managed to keep.doing over the years even whe DS was young

• Walking,
• coffee/lunch dates

-visiting national trust type properties.

• museum visits ( ideally military ones for DH which I am ok with but he is happy to visit others as well if I want ) ,

cinema,

• overnight hotel stays (if we can get away) .

We also usually have one TV show on the go to watch an episode or two of or we might chose a film

Things we did before DS and have recently started tentatively doing again occasionally

• Music gigs to see bands each of us like and theatre visits. We don't alway both like the band but we go together and are open to it for the sake of the other. We have two booked this year

Theatre shows ( we both are like musicals but also other shows) Stand up comedy in pubs Pub quizzes

We have been married almost 20 years )and we recently have added :

Being part of the same choir once a week

Also Games ( table top type) though I am struggling with this as I find them difficult and DH is so good at them I aways lose and I end up feeling inadequate.. I have never been fond of them but I am making the effort . DH mainly chooses non competitive games to play as a team rather than in competition which helps . He also agreed to come to choir with me when he isn't that keen on many social activities ( he has a lovely voice , much better then mine in fact but hasn't ever felt the need to sing with others ).

I forgot NY style properties and RHS gardens. I love looking around gardens because they are beautiful. DH loves them because he;s a keen gardener and knows all the plants by name.

NT not NY!

Long walks as long as it includes either a pub lunch or coffee and cake somewhere. Preferably both.

Definitely walking. Pick a route, either walkable from your home or accessible by car or public transport. Might it take in a beauty-spot or a cafe or pub? Taking sandwiches and a flask is really nice too. DP likes gathering wild bouquets of branches and grasses for our mantle piece so this is a nice focus for a walk every few weeks.

Foraging is also really fun if you have access to countryside. There are foraging groups on FB where one can sometimes find out about local guided foraging walks.

Or, if finances and your weight permit, book a hack at a stable or equestrian centre. We've done this a few times and it's a gorgeous way to get into nature.

Alternatively, you could book yourselves in for an evening / weekend course at a local adult / further education centre together. There is usually a great variety on offer, some which run for just a day, others for a term, yet others for a year: local history lectures with field activities, Korean cuisine, botanical drawing, beginners Spanish, bicycle maintenance.

A fish monger / butcher's local to me is offering day workshops on how to prepare and cook organ foods, how to make sausages, and how to make niche condiments and sauces for a variety of meat and fish.

A book club is a really nice thing to do with a partner. It is lovely to read novels together/ to each other too.

Mostly outdoor activities. Walking, Hiking, Foraging, people watching at coffee shops, Biking, gigs, festivals, museums and art galleries.

I wished Dh liked board games or card games because I love playing but he's not really interested. Most of our in the house activities we don't really do together - other than cleaning it.