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Suicidal relatives and tough relationships

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Pumpkinmommy · 17/10/2022 02:03

Im attempting to reach out for help. My little brother is going through a really rough time at the moment with daily struggles and he is also a disabled person whom like to keep things private. We are a very close family but I feel we are really struggling to help him. The system keeps letting him down time and time again.

we are not a well of family at all but try to put family first in everything. My brother is struggling with his disability and life choices at the moment and it is hitting hard on everything financially and mentally.

We need to get him some help before it’s too late! I have just got into bed after being up with him explaining why we need him to stay live. Something I never ever thought I would have to do. If I could give him and my nephew the world I would.

it’s killing me inside to know I’m struggling to help them.

So I want to reach out to anyone who may be able to talk and help or offer advice because I feel like I’m hitting a brick wall.

thanks ❤️

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Thistlelass · 17/10/2022 03:32

Hi. Reading your post makes me glad I am still awake at this time. Is he seeing his GP or mental health team because that is a must! Is he claiming PIP for his illnesses as that could bring in quite a lot of money he is entitled to? It's benefits checks and treatment first and foremost. He is lucky to have a caring, supportive family and it is so good that he is talking with you. Really keep doing that, all of you. Invite him up for a meal or take food to him. Is there any possibility of him staying with a relative for a while till things get sorted out? But seriously if you have any doubts about his actions (eg attempting to take his life) please call an ambulance or take him to accident and emergency xx

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Pumpkinmommy · 17/10/2022 07:20

Thistlelass · 17/10/2022 03:32

Hi. Reading your post makes me glad I am still awake at this time. Is he seeing his GP or mental health team because that is a must! Is he claiming PIP for his illnesses as that could bring in quite a lot of money he is entitled to? It's benefits checks and treatment first and foremost. He is lucky to have a caring, supportive family and it is so good that he is talking with you. Really keep doing that, all of you. Invite him up for a meal or take food to him. Is there any possibility of him staying with a relative for a while till things get sorted out? But seriously if you have any doubts about his actions (eg attempting to take his life) please call an ambulance or take him to accident and emergency xx

Thank you for commenting. Yes he is seeing his gp and the mental health crisis team and no one seems to really want to help do anything all the answers we keep getting aren't helping at all. He is all ready getting PIP and all the benefits he can. We are at the point now where we are debating having to control his finances as the are being spent in a day or two. It's just really difficult to sit there while he sobs his heart out because he thinks there's no other way out. Xx

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Hbh17 · 17/10/2022 07:32

Call or email Samaritans - for yourself, not for your brother. Then you can offload about the difficulties of supporting a suicidal person.
In general, look after your own wellbeing as a priority - it is that thing they say on planes about fitting your own oxygen mask before assisting others.
Above all, remember that you are not responsible for what happens to your brother and it isn't your job fo "fix" him.

Thistlelass · 17/10/2022 08:34

So I have read your response. It sounds like there is a reason why he is spending his cash so quickly?

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Pumpkinmommy · 17/10/2022 12:39

Hbh17 · 17/10/2022 07:32

Call or email Samaritans - for yourself, not for your brother. Then you can offload about the difficulties of supporting a suicidal person.
In general, look after your own wellbeing as a priority - it is that thing they say on planes about fitting your own oxygen mask before assisting others.
Above all, remember that you are not responsible for what happens to your brother and it isn't your job fo "fix" him.

Thank you x

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Pumpkinmommy · 17/10/2022 12:39

Thistlelass · 17/10/2022 08:34

So I have read your response. It sounds like there is a reason why he is spending his cash so quickly?

Yes he has a gambling habit as well

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