Please help me - I'm wasting my time!!!

[Juyt]

I have a ft job, kids and am busy with the usual stuff during the weekday but in the evenings and weekends I just waste my time and I feel really really bad about it.

I need to say that I have developed a sleeping disorder the past few years that I am getting investigated for but the docs are at a loss on how to help me. 😔 I feel this may be contributing somewhat as I feel like shit in the morning.

Anyway I spend my time on the phone, watching movies, waking up late and just being a bum. I didn't used to be like this and I'm not sure if it's the sleep disorder which is making me like this but I have no motivation to do anything outside of work. At work I do my work because I have to!

I'm worried this is going to affect my family and kids in the long term and I don't know how to snap out of it. It's not a case of just get off the phone. I'll go and find some other useless thing to do.

Watching with interest as I can be guilty of this

Join the club!

Have you felt that it's gotten worse over the years? I'm trying to figure out how I've ended up like this. I wasn't this bad before

Me too! !!!!
I feel like exercise might be part of the answer, not that I’m managing to do that myself!

I didn't think of exercise! Are you thinking exercise might give me more energy and motivation to do other things?

Are you being too harsh with yourself? Why is watching a movie wasting time?
It's ok to have downtime.

I get that just being on the phone can often be a waste of time so cutting that down can help but give yourself permission to rest especially as your sleep is disordered.

I don’t know tbh but agree with the other comments about not being to hard on yourself, I think there are a lot people feeling the same way. I mindlessly scroll and watch episodes and episodes (sometimes a whole series in one sitting) but end up feeling bad during and after it. This stops it being a relaxing experience instead turning it into a stressful and anxiety inducing one. All the podcasts and things I read these days say exercise helps most things. Sending ❤️

just to add I was waking up fogging recently & sometimes with headaches - I got a sleep mouth guard thingie. Amazingly sexy. But did the trick.