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Anyone else get ditched after having kids?

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Qwertyasdfgz · 16/10/2022 18:33

I’m 22 with 2 sons, one is 1 and one is 3 weeks old.
Apart from my sister and DP I literally don’t see or talk to anyone. I see my mum once a week/every other week and only see my sister because she’s renting the spare room.

Prior to having kids I saw my friends and would go out/ see them at least once a week and now I think I leave the house to go see my one friend who stayed in touch maybe every 6 weeks now and talk on the phone once a month? Other than that it’s just seeing DP which is fine - love him and all but he works and I don’t do I just go to bed after seeing him for an hour in the evening as I wake up at 5am with the kids.

Anyone else have kids and then have no one?
I go to the park by myself, go shopping by myself and basically everything alone with a newborn baby in the sling and a 1 year old babbling in the pram. I love my kids more than life I just feel very isolated and it’s making me very lethargic and grumpy at the moment.

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RaininSummer · 16/10/2022 18:50

It's probably because you are pretty young to have two children and presumably your friends are at a different stage right now. Maybe you need to join a few baby groups to meet other young mums.

Spotlightisbright · 16/10/2022 18:53

I had it the other way around, I’m childfree and have been ditched by friends and one cousin when they had children. It was very upsetting but I went to classes and things to meet people with similar interests to mine and made new friends that way. Are you able to do something similar? Baby groups, coffee morning for mums and babies, reading sessions at the library etc.

RoachTheHorse · 16/10/2022 18:57

Yeah. One of my bridesmaids just stopped even trying once I had kids. I tried to make arrangements and other things were always more important so I just gave up.

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Dacadactyl · 16/10/2022 18:59

You need to go to playgroups with the kids so that you can chat with other mums. This was an absolute lifesaver for me when i had my kids. Your lical councils Family Information Service should be able to provide a list of mums and tots groups for you.

If money allows, google baby massage or baby signing groups jn your local area too.

You will find it hard with your old friends, because they will be living it up still and youre at home with babies. However, you will make new friends, yiu just have to put ykurself out there a bit.

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