Ex DP refusing to pay maintenance

[goldie543]

I have a 3 month old DD and haven't received a penny from her father. He has bought her absolutely nothing and contributes nothing other than visiting for a few hours once a week. He claims that he doesn't need to give me any money at this point as I am breastfeeding and therefore don't need to buy milk. She also has lots of clothes and I have a huge stash of nappies/wipes. Because of this, he refuses to give me any money, so it is looking like I will have to go through CMS. Can anyone shed any light on what this process is like? Will he have to give permission for me to give his details? Will they automatically take payment from his account? Thanks

You need to go through CMS

just go through the CMS for goodness sake

Just open a case with cms they will walk you through it. Your claim starts the day you make it and will not be backdated. You don’t need his permission.

If he’s pissed just say it’s better to use official channels rinse and repeat. He’s depriving your shared child of resources she’s entitled to.

you will be arguing with this selfish man child over everything you want him to fundbhslf of forevermore if you dont

Not sure if your comprehension skills are lacking, but I literally said in my OP that I will be going through CMS. I was just wondering if anyone could tell me about their experiences so I know what to expect.

Thank you.

Their lovely and don’t judge. Just call them explain you want to go through them think it cost £20 to get going and then they will try to contact him and if he plays ball they work out how much is fair and suggest he does direct debit but if he doesn’t corporate they can take from his wage. If self employed this changes everything. It does take a few months. Congratulations on baby

You don't need his permission to give his details. Expect him to deny paternity then ignore any attempts to do a DNA test to delay things. If he's employed he'll get a chance to make voluntary payments then when he doesn't you'll have to request a change of service to collect and pay. Serious

Phone going odd. Seriously by the time you start getting money if he's awkward your child will be on solid food and needing a lot more.

So you staying at home to breastfeed costs you absolutely nothing I presume? without mentioning the need to put a roof over your child's head. Grrrr

Child maintenance isn’t just for nappies and milk.
It’s to contribute towards clothes, the extra utility bill costs of having a child( water, electric, gas)
it’s not something he can pick and choose to pay.

it costs £20 to put a claim in. If he refuses they can get deductions through his payroll.

It's always as if the first 2 people responding on this thread don't know how to read...

OP I have no practical advise to give but I hope the CMS makes him pay for the child he fathered. Nothing makes me angrier than feckless fathers who can't man up and take care of their children, while the mums are run ragged providing everything for their children