Did your OH get ‘broody’ too?

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I have always had very strong maternal instincts but as a couple we have always had the ‘when the time is right’ mentality. Lately when we go on a walk for the day or even visit our local stores I am noticing my OH making funny faces at babies in supermarket queues and nudging me whenever a small person is doing something funny in the line ahead of us. He’s great with children in our extended family and is often bringing up how excited he is to have our own and the things he wants to show them and teach them.

We’re saving for a bigger house otherwise I think we would just be going for it. I was talking to my friend about it and she said her partner was indifferent, just happy to go with flow. I couldn’t believe that, it shocked me so much!

What was it like for you - were you broody first or OH? Or neither of you in the case of a surprise?

My husband has always said he wanted children but has never been like your husband. He seemed to always think there was something we should do first! In the end I said there's never a right time but we could leave it too late and we had our first about a year and a half after getting married. I don't think he was really ready as such but I don't think he ever would have been! He had never had young kids/ babies in his life to know what it would be like. He is a great dad, like I knew he would be and we had our second 3 years later. He's great with all the kids at family events etc. But before we had children he didn't really know how to interact with children.

So cute to hear! DP was only like this after DC if I recall.

Hard decision but I'd say property stability first if you can otherwise it may take a back burner and not happen. If you take the step, you know the cost of the bills

DH much keener on having DC than me (I was relaxed either way). Still more paternal than I am maternal and he would have quite liked a third but accepted my view that two healthy DC was perfect.

My husband practically lactates when he sees a baby. Will muck around with toddlers for hours.

However he did just sit on his arse whilst I did the grunt work of my nephew's Easter egg hunt.

So I wouldn't rely on broodiness as a reliable indicator of parenting-readiness.

DH was desperate for a baby for a couple of years before I was ready. We now have a 3 week old, and he’s a great Dad. I’ve done 4 nappies since DS was born!

No! My dh didn’t want any children but said he would consider just one ……

I wanted a huge family …..

we have a big family and are ttc again (one last time !). Dh says it wasn’t what he would have chosen but he’s happy and loves the dc. I did say to him I would respect what he wanted but he reconsidered and said he wanted me to be happy

OH and I had always said we’d think about having a baby when we’re around 30 (been together since we were 17/18). Then one day he said something which was basically a ‘shall we not just try now?’ kind of comment. We were 27 at the time and I figured oh well, it’s only 3 years before we originally planned so why not!

Mine was. He wanted kids a lot younger than I did. When all our friends were having kids in late teens/early 20s I just wanted to party and he wanted kids.

DH wanted kids more than I did, and was keener on having DC2 than I was. Which isn't to say I didn't want them, but he was born to be a dad. He's brilliant at all aspects of it - a much better parent than I am.

Within 3 months of meeting my now husband, he told me that he always dreamed of becoming a father one day and that he would want to do that with me someday.

I was very surprised because no man has EVER said anything like this to me, and I have 2 children from a previous relationship. In fact, my ex said "no man ever wanted children, they allow it as a compromise because women want children". (Yes he was an abusive dick, but I believed him at the time).

It took 4 years of trying naturally, then a further 2 years of IVF, and I'm 38 weeks pregnant.

Ironic that the prick 2ho didn't want children, got me pregnant twice no problem, and the beautiful soul I married had fertility issues.

My husband has made being pregnant an absolute joy with his enthusiasm and support. Such a different experience than with my ex who didn't really invest and made my life a misery.

DH was always more classically 'broody' than me! I mean, I wanted kids but more in a 'I find the idea really interesting' way than 'My life will be completed by being a mother/babies are so adorable' way. DH had a much younger sister, born when he was teenager, so was much better than me with babies as well. He suggested maybe we could try for a baby a few months before we got married, but I said no, as I had no way of knowing how pregnancy would make me feel physically (as it was, I was pretty fine both times, but as I said, I didn't know that).

I wasn't bothered about having kids, but DH wanted them. I've never been broody. We have 2 children.

Yes more so than me. Even now a new baby in family or friends hes like.. Awww i want another. Hes had snip so no chance. And yes his choice to have snip too. As practically and financially 4 is our limit. But if we had more money and bigger house he'd happily have more. I would too but he'd be more excited

My dh used to run around the house all silly singing 'babies, babies, babies, babies, babies,'.... He couldn't wait.