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New job - take it or not!?

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Namechanged454 · 11/10/2022 19:18

God I feel so conflicted. At the moment I work as an activities Coordinator in a care home, 4 days a week all within school hours so no need for any before/after childcare. We also have a puppy so I'm only out of the house six hours a day - so only pay for one puppy check in a day. I love my job, but it's not very challenging mentally and can be rewarding but also frustrating if nobody wants to do anything that day. There's also no routes for progression as I'm the only Coordinator so not like I can lead the team or anything. I had an interview, and got offered a job at my local college working with young adults with disabilities/learning difficulties...it's something new, challenging, routes to progress and access to courses to further my knowledge etc. However...I'll be out of the house 10 hours a day, will have to pay for wrap around school care, have to pay for more puppy check ins. My current manager is devastated I'm leaving, along with other staff that have basically told me I can't leave, I do such a great job and the residents will be devastated. I now don't know if what I'm feeling is guilt about leaving, or if it's genuine second thoughts. I'm only 30, children both under 9 so I've got my whole life to have a "challenging" job...do I stick with the easier job while I'm parenting two school age children? Or do I push myself and maybe knacker myself out and let parenting slip in the process. I'm stressing out so much and people that know me just keep saying "you'll know what to do" "we'll be proud either way" which is lovely to know, but not all that helpful! X

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Greengr · 11/10/2022 19:24

Firstly congrats on the job offer. Difficult one but ask yourself why applied in the first place. Then a list of pros and cons for each.
Know one can tell you what to do for best Hope that helps. Good luck, I'm sure you'll come to a conclusion.

UnagiForLife · 11/10/2022 19:32

It’s such a dilemma, stay in the easy safe comfort zone or push yourself but complicate life. I had a similar choice recently and chose to stay in the comfort zone. Do I have regrets, yes, but I know I did it for the right reasons for our family and if I had the chance to go back in time and make the decision again, I would do the same. Deep down you’ll know the right thing for you and your family.

Amicompletelyinsane · 11/10/2022 19:36

I'm in the same drama. Accepted new job that involves doing more hours and some weekends work. Old job I love. Been there forever and love the people. But I have no way to progress there. New job same hourly rate but I will lead a team and get more qualifications. My youngest is 8 now and I feel like it's the right thing to move on and the children aren't tiny any more. Time to get my career back. But honestly I'm so worried I'll regret it. But I know I'll regret it if I don't go. Its all the what ifs. If I don't leave I'll still be in the same role in the same pay in 20 years time

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