Hi everyone, me and my partner have been together over 5 years and we have a 7 month old daughter together.
Last night I woke up to sort out my daughter as she’s going through a sleep regression, however something was in the pit of my stomach to snoop through my partners phone. I know it’s not right in some peoples eyes and we are all entitled to privacy. However when looking through, I realised he had recently deleted some videos, I then realised he had downloaded a screen recorder on his phone, and has been taking videos of women on twitter via porn pages etc. Now porn does not bother me, as I have watched it on the very rare occasions myself, but I felt like this was a bit more personal as it’s via twitter and he can message them directly etc?. Not only that, but about two months ago, I had come across a similar video but instead it was of a girl stripping on snap chat. She had sent him this snap chat personally (possibly to other people to), and he had recorded it via the app he has. I also realised he had a women on his snap chat putting up stories stating something along the lines of “snap for nudes” etc. I did bring this up to him (not about the one he recorded) but of the women advertising nudes and he said he must of “accidentally” added her and he just adds anyone. But it also appeared he had been sending these women messages, now I can’t see the messages because they disappear within 24 hours, but Snapchat has this blue arrow thing to indicate when you have sent a message. Now I don’t know what way to take this, cheating or not cheating etc? What are your views and opinions on this?. I’m simply here looking for advice and not abuse. Since having my daughter I haven’t had the best sex drive, so is this causing him to search else where?. Advice and help would be appreciated x