To tell you my due date

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Such a mundane thread really, I'm just so happy!

I'm pregnant with DC2 and one of the things I found most stressful with my first pregnancy was the constant talk of due dates. I naively told family and friends when the baby was due and all it meant was people calling endlessly in the run up to that date "just to chat". People who never usually called me.
Many calls and texts that had bee. Worded nonchalantly but screamed "did you have the baby and forget to tell anyone?!"

This time I was adamant. We can tell people the month but that's it. So they know dc is due in October but it could have been the first or the thirty first.
We could currently be overdue or still a fair few weeks away.

The truth is it is a planned section for this Wednesday.

I have been told I'm selfish, inconsiderate, spoilsport etc for keeping this piece of information between just DH and I so I'm really bloody chuffed to have made it to the end without telling anyone.

It'll be lovely to surprise everyone with news of the baby's arrival and to have not had the incessant phone calls, pressure and noseyness of extended family, friends etc has been such a relief!

Such a good idea. On my NCT course they told us to add 2 weeks to our due date if people asked.

My due date is a secret too, it's great! :-)

Now this is exciting. Waiting for the announcement.

That's fine if you don't want family involved , you definitely have to make boundaries!

I'm just chuffed we've made it the whole way without people knowing.

When asked when baby is due I've only ever said "October" and then when pushed over said "I found everyone knowing last time made me feel really pressured so of course as soon as they are here we will tell you all. It'll be some point in October"

Most people have respected that boundary but a few have been really quite pushy and rude about it.
One person even said "but I'm so excited for you I don't see why you don't want people to share their excitement and be happy for you. Such a spoilsport not letting people in on such a happy time!"

Childcare for DC1 is in place, bag packed. We are ready to go!

Good luck!

I still giggle and the look on peoples faces when I was asked my due date and the nursery bake sale and honestly replied "today". They looked like I was going to just give birth there and then. I was having no signs of labour at that point. (She was born a few hours later, but I hadn't even had the first niggle then)

I'm with you OP! There's so much pressure when everyone knows.

Good for you. Next time I have a baby I will be doing the same! There is a special place in hell for those people who never usually call or message you, then right when you're due date appears there they are

I'm struggling! Came in this morning and got told I was third on the list.

It's now 4.40pm. I haven't eaten in 20 hours.
I only get updated when I ask and have now been told they will decide at 6pm if they can fit me in today.

I appreciate emcs must come first and thank goodness I'm not in that position. But I'm starving. In a lot of discomfort. Have a poorly toddler at home to consider and now wasted a day of DH paternity leave which we really needed for helping me during recovery.

They told me at 2pm they didn't do routine stuff after 6pm so when I went at 4pm to clarify "does that mean if I'm not taken down to theatre by 6pm or is it time to have the section done by 6pm so taken down at 5pm" they bit my head off that "you've been told you'll be updated at 6pm. But I wasn't. That's not the advice I was given or I wouldn't have gone out and asked.