What happens if you are arrested

HailAdrian · 2022-10-10T20:36:34+00:00

And your child(ren) is/are with you at the time and there are no other adults present. I'm just curious and Google is no help.

Jazzandblues · 10/10/2022 21:40

It's strange to ask such question. I hope you are okay.

I would imagine they would see if the children can be looked after by family, so if their other parent/grandparents etc are around. If no family available then it's a social services thing.

I also would imagine it depends on the reason why the police are there in the first place, so maybe will book in for a time to attend the local police station.

PinkButtercups · 10/10/2022 21:42

I would imagine they'd contact family that or maybe SS and temporary foster care? I don't know though but first thought would be family.

Hope everything is okay.

stitchinguru · 10/10/2022 21:44

Yes - if you are arrested, the police will allow you time to organise childcare (relative etc).

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HailAdrian · 10/10/2022 21:46

It's strange to ask such question. I hope you are okay.

Oh I'm OK, the question was inspired by a conversation I had today. I have a lot of strange questions that I'd love to know the answers to!

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HailAdrian · 10/10/2022 21:49

My 11yo jokingly said I'd get arrested (I can't remember why now but I promise I wasn't committing a crime) and I told him he'd have to look after his little brother.

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popo50 · 10/10/2022 22:28

If the circumstances permitted you'd be asked for friends, family, anyone you trusted and the police would arrange with that person to look after your children.

If there was literally no one or you couldn't be asked for detail emergency social work would be contacted to arrange emergency care

bloodywhitecat · 10/10/2022 22:30

Foster carers sometimes get calls to care for children in this situation if there isn't a friend or family member who can help.

Gingerkittykat · 10/10/2022 22:47

This happened to my niece and nephew when their dad was arrested.

They were taken to the police station and looked after until an adult came and collect them. I don't think they were there for very long and they were really happy they got given cans of Irn Bru and sweets! They were upset because they had witnessed their dads violence and he then resisted arrest but the police treated them well.

Georgeskitchen · 10/10/2022 22:53

Not sure but an acquaintance of mine was involved in a bit of a scuffle in town one night. Nothing terribly bad, just public order type offence. They were rounded up, had there names and addresses taken. My acquaintance, who didn't actually live in the town, received a phone call asking him to attend the police station at an arranged time to be arrested and interviewed. He told them if they wanted to arrest him they needed to Come and find him. This was about 6 years ago and they still haven't turned up !!

TheFormidableMrsC · 10/10/2022 23:36

It happened to me. My DD was 15 and my SEN DS was 3.

My ex-husband and OW made a malicious complaint to the police. I was taken from my house on a Sunday morning having been escorted to my bedroom to get dressed. I explained that my DD was under age and I was not comfortable with her being left to care for a high needs child. They threatened me with social services and emergency foster care.

My DD was clear that she was capable of watching him and would go to my neighbour for support. The police told her I could potentially be gone "for a few days". I am still traumatised by this and have had counselling. As it happens I was cleared within about 6 hours and released. An absolutely horrific experience for both me and my children.

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Jazzandblues · 10/10/2022 21:40

It's strange to ask such question. I hope you are okay.

I would imagine they would see if the children can be looked after by family, so if their other parent/grandparents etc are around. If no family available then it's a social services thing.

I also would imagine it depends on the reason why the police are there in the first place, so maybe will book in for a time to attend the local police station.

I don't think so; I wonder about loads of weird things. My Google search history would probably make odd reading.

Banana2079 · 10/10/2022 23:46

I work in police custody what happens usually is that the parent is Arrested and then bailed to return
in other cases we have looked after children upstairs in the police station mess hall until parent is bailed or until someone can Select the child if there is nobody to collect the child and it’s going to be a long wait then of course local Authorities informed however this is in very rare circumstances

Banana2079 · 10/10/2022 23:46

I meant collect not select

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HailAdrian · 11/10/2022 08:04

TheFormidableMrsC · 10/10/2022 23:36

It happened to me. My DD was 15 and my SEN DS was 3.

My ex-husband and OW made a malicious complaint to the police. I was taken from my house on a Sunday morning having been escorted to my bedroom to get dressed. I explained that my DD was under age and I was not comfortable with her being left to care for a high needs child. They threatened me with social services and emergency foster care.

My DD was clear that she was capable of watching him and would go to my neighbour for support. The police told her I could potentially be gone "for a few days". I am still traumatised by this and have had counselling. As it happens I was cleared within about 6 hours and released. An absolutely horrific experience for both me and my children.

That's awful, so sorry you went through that.

My youngest also had SN and i was wondering how police would deal with children like him, he doesn't speak or communicate well in general.

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Andypandy799 · 11/10/2022 12:40

If your on your own they would first ask if a neighbour or relative can come and look after them. If you have no one the children are taken back to the police station until ss can arrange care. I e seen them looking after babies while they wait.

TheFormidableMrsC · 11/10/2022 20:17

@HailAdrian thank you, it was horrendous and extremely frightening. I was treated like I'd murdered somebody. Searched, DNA, mugshot etc. I wouldn't mind, they hadn't even seen any evidence, had just had a telephone complaint. I made a formal complaint later on and received a full apology.

I should add, after that incident, I made sure there was a named guardian for my son and that we had a plan between DD and I for any circumstances that I might be absent. I didn't want my children to have that trauma again.