I have a 13 month old and dad is requesting 5050 split
He currently has our child one night during the week and one night over the weekend (24 hrs)
I have always been flexible and insisted if he wanted to pick her up from childminders he was more than welcome to but he has never asked
I split bank Holidays and am very considerate with many things that he doesn't even thank me for
We had a verbal conversation regarding the current arrangement we have 2 months ago and said we will review in 6 months (particularly as he is about to lose his house due to landlords selling)
From comments that have been made a souly believe he only wants our daughter more to avoid paying maintenence costs which breaks my heart as I truly enjoy being a mum
As there are no safeguarding issues etc I understand this could be granted, he's requesting 4 days one week with him and his family and 3 days the following, wants set days, but is happy to be flexible and happy to arrange each week a week in advance (very contradicting..)
Of course I would suggest set days but this honestly isn't the route I want to go down, I don't think he has considered that even if he doesn't pay maintenence he will have to pay half of the childcare cost
He left when our DD was 3 months old and every bit of access which has slowly built over time has been offered by me.. I don't like him he's narsastic and controlling but I'm really concerned that this will go through if it goes to court and I really just don't want that
I respect childeren have a right to see both parents and I fully encourage their relationship but I do believe it's not in the best interest of the child as they are never in one place!
Any similar experience outcomes shared would be much appreciated