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5050 custody

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Polly303x · 10/10/2022 21:09

I have a 13 month old and dad is requesting 5050 split

He currently has our child one night during the week and one night over the weekend (24 hrs)

I have always been flexible and insisted if he wanted to pick her up from childminders he was more than welcome to but he has never asked

I split bank Holidays and am very considerate with many things that he doesn't even thank me for

We had a verbal conversation regarding the current arrangement we have 2 months ago and said we will review in 6 months (particularly as he is about to lose his house due to landlords selling)

From comments that have been made a souly believe he only wants our daughter more to avoid paying maintenence costs which breaks my heart as I truly enjoy being a mum

As there are no safeguarding issues etc I understand this could be granted, he's requesting 4 days one week with him and his family and 3 days the following, wants set days, but is happy to be flexible and happy to arrange each week a week in advance (very contradicting..)

Of course I would suggest set days but this honestly isn't the route I want to go down, I don't think he has considered that even if he doesn't pay maintenence he will have to pay half of the childcare cost

He left when our DD was 3 months old and every bit of access which has slowly built over time has been offered by me.. I don't like him he's narsastic and controlling but I'm really concerned that this will go through if it goes to court and I really just don't want that

I respect childeren have a right to see both parents and I fully encourage their relationship but I do believe it's not in the best interest of the child as they are never in one place!

Any similar experience outcomes shared would be much appreciated

OP posts:
RandomMess · 10/10/2022 21:24

You can stick with that you don't think 50:50 is in DC best interests and suggest you try EOW Saturday am to Sunday tea time, then increase it to Friday after nursery until Sunday tea time plus every Tuesday or Wednesday for several months before you consider anything like 50:50.

Ultimately you can go through mediation but if you can't agree he can take you to court. He won't necessarily get 50:50 especially at such a young age.

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